Teen Dating

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What are good questions to ask to get to know someone really well?

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Some tips: If you are referring to a close friend or a significant other, I am a fan of playing the relationship version of 20 Questions. Quite simply, take turns asking and answering questions until you have each asked twenty. This may take more than one get-together to complete, but it is a great deal of fun and will reveal a lot about both of you. Try to keep a mix of serious and humorous questions. In making a serious inquiry, make sure that you only ask questions that you yourself would be comfortable answering. This game is wonderful for bonding in a relationship. Don't interrogate them, but try to get them to open up about themselves. Casually ask about their job, their family and friends. What kinds of things do they do in their free time? Discuss hobbies, what kinds of music/movies/books they prefer. Be honest about yourself and what you enjoy in life. Note these things: Do they complain a lot? Have they changed a lot of jobs/moved frequently over the years? Do they say rude things about their parents or ex friends/wives? Any of these could be a warning sign. I think it helps to let the other person lead a bit. See what questions they ask. Not only will this allow you to answer and then say "and how about you" but it can give you insight into what a person is curious about and that can help you learn about them. You will be surprised what people will tell you if you just let them. If I REALLY want to get to know someone, I ask nothing and just observe how they are. Too often if people suspect they are being evaluated, one way or the other, they often have a tendency to a certain behaviour or say or do what they THINK you are looking for or what they THINK makes them look best. Especially in the dating scene. Rule of thumb, by six months, all their mental problems should have surfaced. Ask them questions about hobbies, likes and dislikes, religion; basically anything that would help you get to know that person better, but avoid anything about ex's, his/her past, or if they want to marry and have children. This will only scare them away. Just be yourself and there is no need to change your values just to impress someone else. This would arise as a problem if things were to happen and when the true person starts to reveal themself you may find out it is not the person you were looking for. All of the questions in the book "Intellectual "! My boyfriend (soon-to-be fiancé) are in a long-distance relationship, and the questions in that book are wonderful. Things I would've never thought of, and things that really made me think about myself and how I feel about various things. Questions are one method and another method is to let situations occur and then ask the persons view and response. It is perhaps better because you have an example that has come up by chance and can get his/her reaction to it. Other times, clarify what you hear by asking a question in a positive way. Otherwise, you will miscommunicate and misunderstand. The best way to get to know someone is how they speak of their family, friends and ex's. If they slag off their mates then they are probably untrustworthy so AVOID them! I think asking about their work gives you a clear insight into their drive/ambition, intelligence and affluence. What they like to do when they relax will give you a clue about the types of things he/she will expect you to do together. Another way to get to know someone is watch their manner in public, if they swear, are loud, smoke in prohibited places, they may be rude, arrogant and disrespectful ... perhaps not someone you want to date. However the best way to get to know someone is to LISTEN. Sounds daft, but everything they say, however little or trivial may be a clue to their personality and little clues soon add up, like a jigsaw. Enjoy getting to know them, its one of the most exciting parts of a relationship! Read "The Book of Questions" by Gregory Stock, PhD Read the book "Red Flags: How to Know if You're Dating a Loser" I found out that if you just talk to them, be yourself, act casual, and don't be fake then things mostly have good outcomes. Ask them questions but don't blabber on too much so the person can't even ask you what they want to, be open, don't be short, tell them enough to keep them guessing and wanting more, but not so little so that they forget it. Make sure the important things are answered on the first date, because then you will be clueless, and the important questions will may seem very odd to ask on later dates ... such as when you discuss things you like, on the second date if you just blurt out, "What type of music do you like?" You may sound stupid. Instead if you go somewhere or hear music playing make a gesture as in, "Hearing the notes of music reminds me, what type of music do you like?". But, as others have said don't interrogate them, because they'll get nervous about these 30 questions being thrown at them. Don't get nervous, or loud, or weird when you talk to them, because that just may put up a sign to them that you don't like them or that something is terribly wrong. I think the best way to get to know how a person truly is is by the way they discuss people they know. I have found that people who speak negatively of others usually are not very nice people themselves. Also, what kind of friends do they have? Law abiding, hard working people, college or high school friends, or only friends they met at a bar? Find out what they stand for. Do they have morals? How do they feel about morals, this can be found by the way they react to things. Do they cut corners? Are they dishonest in the little things? What do they talk like, foul? You can see that many times we don't even have to ask questions. When we see them in a public setting we can learn lots. People are smart they will tell you what they think you want to hear but their conduct can speak volumes about them, more than any question we can ask. First though, we have to have the standards within us in order to know what to look for. Just say things to them to make them feel interested in why you want to know. Buying a book on body language - the most effective chat-up line is supposed to be, "What's your favourite pizza topping?" you can also just ask them that you wanted to get to know them better than just sitting there and looking like a fool. you don't want them to think that because some people are just really rude these days they would do anything to make you feel like a jerk. well that's all really. try your best!! GOOD LUCK!! what's your name NUMBER 1! Only ask he/she what you want to know... Some questions that can start good conversations might be... What they think of people at school? If he/she likes school? how he/she spends her weekends etc. I love the pizza topping question because it will kind of throw them for a loop and you will get more of an honest answer. Most people have "pat" friendus that they are asked all the time. I also like to ask them questions like "what is their best childhood memory", or "what is your favorite flavor of ice cream". These are questions they are not expecting! Be aware of red flags like a person who only likes to talk about themself and isn't asking you any questions about yourself. One other good piece of advise that applies equally to friends or people you are dating: watch how they treat the waiter/waitress, cashier, busboy, etc. If they are rude or offish to these people they are not someone you want as a mate or friend! It really depends. Ask questions that require more than a yes or no. Questions that could start a conversation are good. honestly, some of the best friendships that i have began when i was just hanging out with the person in a group. I've even told people that i think they're interesting and that i want to be their friend. that works. but I've found that the best way to get to know someone is by hanging out with them.
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How can you tell if a girl or a guy likes you?

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IF HE LIKES YOU HE WILL: (I'm using a guy in my examples.) look at you and when you catch him, he tends to look away. Text/call you on his own if you did it first. Make up excuses to talk to you. Find ways to be around you. Pretend to like someone else. Become your friend. Be playful with you. Try to make you laugh/feel better. P.S. If you don't know if a guy likes you tell them in someway, and you will be able to assume if they do, by the way that they react. Here are some things to look for to know when a girl or a guy likes you: Keep an eye on how many times you catch her/him staring at you. Take notice of whether s/he smiles at you a lot. Look for whether s/he focuses on you in a crowd. Walk to her/him and talk to her/him. See if s/he wants to go out with you. Pay attention to any significant changes in her/his behavior toward you recently. Start showing her/him a bit more interest and see how they respond. Have a friend talk to her/him or one of her/his friends about you. Ask, '[name], are you interested in me?' Look for signs of teasing. Tips: Hopefully you will not have to use steps 7 or 8, but if you're having difficulty reading her/him, these steps are your last resort! Remember, this is not an exact science, and it may take a few mistakes to perfect your technique. Here are more explanations from Wiki s contributors: The easiest way to tell (for anyone) is to just take an innocent step into their personal space. If they aren't interested then they will step away. If they are interested then they will set closer boundaries for you and will therefore not mind your closer-than-normal presence. I'm a girl and when I like a guy I try to seem "uninterested" or "unavailable" just so they think they can't have me and want me more. Before me and my boyfriend were going out, he tried to be near me all the time; tried to find a way to touch my shoulders, arms, hands, feet, etc.; always tried to put his arm around me. When I said that I was cold or tired, he always put his arm around me and said things like, "Do you want me to warm you up?" and, "Lay your head on my shoulder." Overall it is really easy to tell if a guy likes you or not. One of the signs that a boy likes you is when he always teases you or makes fun/jokes. He seems to find reasons to be with or near you. He may come up with what you think are lame or legit reasons to speak to you, call you, ask something. Try watching if he looks into your eyes or at least eye contact when he talks to you. Does he find ways to be closer to your body, near you, sit close or on the same side of the room as you? Does he talk to you instead of at you? Does he want your opinion? Cares what you have to say? Does he seem to be around you often, when he can? Does his face lighten up or seem to go from stress to unstressed when you walk in or say hello? A guy may not be obvious about it either, especially if he's shy, or maybe a little unsure of himself, which doesn't mean he's a loser at all but probably warmer from with in or more depth to him, more sensitive. Boys might not tell you directly, but they may tell someone. Or perhaps when you are not around but your friend is there he will ask for you. I'm a girl and I like two guys that are both my friends, and I think they like me because: 1 of them told me a secret that he only told me n my other friend, one that could really affect his like (we r not BFFs we r just good friends so this means a lot 4 me) so if he talks to you a lot that is a good sign. the other one: when we were partnering up, i didn't have a partner and he was staring at me the whole time, till he had the guts to walk over to me and ask me to be his partner, and then the whole block we sat there talking and goofing off. We were sharing deep stuff. and we always look at each other during class if someone does something funny or we remember an inside joke. AND he is always staring at me. AND in the mornings he always walks over 2 me and says hi n we talk a little. So I think any of those are good signs. You will know if a guy likes you because he will not hesitate to make eye-contact; he will either stare if he thinks you won't notice or hold your gaze when you catch him in the act (if he has a lot of confidence). If a guy is interested, he will also go out of his way to be as near you as possible without being obvious. Of course, the rules don't apply to all men, but generally, if he likes you, you WILL know it, without a doubt. I'm a guy and usually when it comes to asking girls out i only ask them out if I'm like 95% sure they like me. And girls if a guy asked you out answer it for yourself don't discuss it with your friends. Also if you now a guy has a phone ask him for his number most guys would probably say yes unless a they don't like you, or if they just walk a way without an answer that is usually a sign that they like you. If you do get there number text them like every other day ONLY if they respond. When texting someone if they don't respond it usually means they're no interested. TAKE THE HINT. Also if a guy likes you he will usually look at you a lot as long as you don't sit right next to them. If you notice a guy looking at you a lot and then looking a way when you look at them that is a sure sign that they like you. I'm a guy and I think it depends, and different guys are different. Eye contact and attention isn't always the best way to tell. If a guy is shy he may get intimidated by girls he likes and actually make less eye contact. I'm a guy, and I find it real hard to let a girl know I like her. I try to be funny, I smile (because I can't help it), I try to be close to her, but I can't verbally let her, or anyone know. Many guys have the same problem. I'm a guy. If a guy is into you, he will ask you out, or he'll most definitely go out with you when you ask him first. There are no exceptions to that rule, unless he was with someone else at the time and wants to be true to them. So unfortunately, if a guy does not go out with you when you ask him out, he does not like you. Here are some of the signs: he acts distracted when he's around you and fumbles for things. From the corner of your eye you think he is looking at you but when you look up he turns away abruptly and you think you are imagining things. He tries to like all the things you do. Your instinct tells you that he feels for you but your rational part says you are sure to be wrong. I think you can tell if a guy likes you if he always looks at you, he always wants to see you smile, he doesn't like it when other guys talk to you, he looks at you when you are doing something, he follows you places, he doesn't know how to act when he is with you. A guy is interested in a girl if he says "yes" to things she asks him to do. Time is very valuable to a guy, and if he is obliging and generous with his time, a girl certainly has his attention. Especially if he's a busy guy, he'll make time for a girl if he likes you. He will make you feel special. He will be romantic. He will not move too fast. He will consider your feelings and take things slow. He will show off, sometimes on small things. (For example, my crush at the moment was drinking in front of me, but then stopped when I said it was uncool). I knew a guy who would try to embarrass his friends when they were around me. He wanted to look funny and seem cooler than his friends. Sometimes a guy who likes you can behave in a very confusing way and be hard to understand. It might make you wonder whether they like you or hate you. Shy guys like me will most likely tell their friends. Some will be confused if you flirt with them because they have never had this happen before, so they don't know what to do. Most guys don't do things unless they know exactly what they are doing. Girls just confuse us. A guy likes you if he: 1. Makes fun of you. 2. Has cute little nicknames for you. 3. Remembers everything you say, in the smallest most insignificant conversations. 4. Finds any excuse to touch you or sit next to you. 5. Talks and looks at you differently than other people. 6. Talks about you with your friends. A confident guy is easier to read. He'll make eye contact. Shy guys can be very hard to read but there are some sure signs: They might be looking at you but if you look back then they'll quickly look away. He will always laugh at funny things you do. Don't get discouraged if he talks more to other girls. Shy guys are very attracted to outgoing girls, so don't be afraid to be outgoing! Here's what you can do: when you're in a group of people and he's there, ask to the group if anyone would like to go on a walk, or go do something with you. Be sure that it would be a two person activity. If the guy you like agrees, then this is good. You can guarantee you'll have a good conversation with him if you ask a lot of questions. Be sure to tell him if you have something in common. Confident men who aren't afraid to stare at you and ask you out may just want you for the sex. Sometimes a guy will pretend to flirt with other girls in your presence, to make you jealous. I tend to like shy guys, so it may be hard to read them at first. But, once they open up, they give you their confidence completely. I find that they will: 1. Make eye contact with you, then look away when your eyes meet. 2. Always be willing to help you our or do you favors (like rides home, or physical work). 3. Will always look for you in a crowd, then when he finds you will act like he doesn't see you. 4. Will laugh at all your jokes/will try to make you laugh. 5. Talks to his friends about you. 6. Mentions activities that you are interested in so there is a chance for you two to do them together. 7. Will always find a reason to talk to you or touch you in any way. 8. Pokes fun at you, but in a nice way (unless he is very young and immature). 9. Seems genuinely interested in what you have to say. 10. Remembers little things that you've talked about before a long time ago, and brings them up in conversations to let you know that he remembered. 11. He will always stare at you, and your friends may notice it too. 12. When you are talking with him and your friends, he will only comment on something that you say, or will look at you whenever he speaks. I hope that these help, but remember, you can't always rely on physical things. I think that most of all it is a feeling. If he likes you, your instinct tells you. Go with your gut. Don't let your logic tell you any different. I highly recommend the new book: "He's just not that into you." It is so right on about how to tell if a guy likes you! Actually, the first rule of thumb is that a guy will ask you out if he likes you. To get him comfortable enough to do that, all you have to do is smile and seem interested in him as a person (just in case he's the shy type). A guy who likes you may tend to notice new things about you, and compliment you. The truth is, most girls can tell if a guy likes them. If you get the feeling that he likes you, you're probably right. Okay, I'm a girl and i think its pretty much the same, I always think about what "signs" hell be giving me and ill realize i gave him the same ones, like staring, and then turning away, or blushing, or teasing but then making sure you know there kidding, they like to see you smile and will do whatever they can do just to touch you, but not in an obvious way, like "accidentally" touch your knee or arm, not too obvious though. Guys are cute that way, and I'll always find I'm even more attracted to them when they like you, but only by the minor signs. It feels good to know someones watching you so if a guy or girl sees something they like compliment them, it feels good! anyway that is about it, you should know, yes guys have the hardest jobs and I sympathize with them but just go for it, truth is if you think they do, most likely they do, and try not to give these signs when you don't like them, then your leading them on, that is not cool! I'm a guy, and I think that in most ways, we couldn't be clearer when we like someone, girls, on the other hand, are more complicated than debugging Windows Vista !!! If there's a girl a like, then I tend to be more hesitant, self-conscious and shy around her, but OK round all the other girls. I won't look at them as often as I look anywhere else. In the end, it's probably just as effective as doing the opposite. I disagree with the above, even though its like a well known fact for guys that girls are complicated and hard to read. But the truth is guys just can't catch a hint so no matter how much we do make signs it like barely gets through! So don't blame us for not being able to catch the MILLIONS of signs we send out! Usually a girl will tell her best friend then her bff will try to be nice and tell the guy then he will know. However, it depends on the girl. I am a girl and personally, I'd never tell my bff because I'll be teased mercilessly about the guy lol. I'm a girl and if I liked a guy, I would 1) tease and "play" with him 2) I would try to sit closer to him or move near him in some way 3) I would try to get his attention, example walk around in front of him a lot, smile and try to catch his eye every time I saw him 4) I would talk to him and try to know him better 5)flirting is part of #4. If he constantly reminds you about his plans, such as "I'm going to the mall this weekend," he is hinting that you should go with him, or at least hoping that you will change your plans and go there the same date and time, with him or not. I knew a guy that liked me, and when I was around him, he would try and trip his friend and tease him so I would laugh. If a guy struggles to make you laugh, he likes you. Well, recently, a good friend of mine (I like her) broke up with her boyfriend, and I kinda helped her calm down a bit. Well, recently, she started teasing me, and calling me "heyy, Mr. Handsome", or similar things. I'm taking this as a good sign, and I'm kinda going out with her today. Not a big date, just a lunch and a movie. Also, you'll know a girl likes you if she constantly looks at you, like I do when I try to find her in the crowd. I have a locker next to the guy I like and he is always teasing me and making jokes and standing really close to my body like we are slow dancing or something. He is always smile and staring at me and he does look me in the eyes when we have conversations. So I'm pretty sure he likes me. For really bold guys The guy I like, I'm pretty sure he likes me. He seems to try and find excuses to touch me like high-fiving, or taking a box I'm carrying for me. Bold guys will try to catch your eye often, and hold the gaze. The totally non-shy guys try and make it more obvious. He may flirt with other girls around you and look at you to see if you get jealous. The guy I like is like totally the opposite of shy (so am I, we're perfect for each other lol), so I thought I'd put this in for the other peeps who like a bold dude. and a lot of this stuff applies to us gals too. Kiss them on the mouth and if they get mad they don't like you. Ok there was this guy in year 7 who used 2 like me, but I rejected him so he doesn't like me anymore, but he used 2... 1)poke me with his pen in maths and elbow me a lot 2)annoy me all other times 3)one time he ran up to me and opened my bag and one of my best friends asked him if he fancied me and he went bright red and went off. he was nice 2 me 4 the rest of the day - in English (last lesson) he was giving out books and he got to mine, smiled at me and put it at the bottom of the pile. In parents evening that day he was behind a desk and when I got there he was really pleased 2 c me. He ignored everyone else and gave me a massive grin, but I looked straight past him, so he has been ignoring me since. I hated him and I still do. Now there's this guy who I love, and I think it's mutual, we catch the same bus, so we're together every morning and afternoon, we go to the same clubs (orchestra, wind orchestra and yr 8 band), we play 3 instruments the same at the same level (keyboard, piano and guitar) and I play the clarinet and he plays the flute. the signs he gives me that we feel the same are: 1) he stares at me a lot ;2) he's always creeping up on me; 3) forever giving me high fives; 4) talks to me a lot; 5) tells me his secrets; 6) makes me laugh; 7) smiles at me. There is a great post on ezinearticles that talks about this subject (see related link). He will show signs: he will smile at you every time he sees you and do a cute nod; he will sit with you or ask you to sit with him; he will be nice to you all the time; he will finally ask you out. He might always be staring at you, running his hand through his hair, or avoiding your eyes when you look at him. He might also be whispering around you (nicely) and teasing you (nicely). He will laugh at your jokes, even if they aren't funny. Good luck with love! Give it a shot! There are some guys, however, that may like you, but will do none of the things above. For example, there is a guy that I know likes me (and how I know that is a long story, so I won't explain), and yet he purposefully doesn't do anything above so that I wouldn't know. He hardly ever makes eye contact, he doesn't try to talk to me much, he never laughs at my jokes, etc. And every time I touch him, he flips out. Yet he does like me as more than a friend. So don't think that if a guy seems to sort of shun you, in a way, it might not be that he's repulsed by you. He may like you. Sometimes guys can be really weird over whether they like you or not. Sometimes even if they know you like them IN THAT WAY because everyone knows they still don't do anything. Watch out, because sometimes if a guy is hanging around you and wants to be in a group with you for projects and stuff it's just because you're smart or he wants to look good. this is easy. for a guy if they show off, smile at you, ask you personal questions, or ask you who you like they will probably like you. for a girl if they smile at you, hang out with you, or try to sit by you they probably like you. They flirt with you very much and they do not show it until you show it If he is a SHY guy he will: 1. he would be really nervous when he is around you. 2. he will not make eye contact with you. 3. he will look at you and when you catch him he will look away. 4. he will try to avoid you. and that's usually it for shy guys! If he is a BOLD guy he will: 1. he will annoy you a lot. 2. he will say he likes another girl just to make you jealous. 3. he will flirt with you. 4. he will get mad if you talk to another guy. 5. when you talk to him, he will smile. 6. he will try his best to make you laugh. 7. he will touch your hand or hug you for no reason. 8. he will hang out around you very often. and that's usually for bold guys.
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How do you find out if a girl really likes you?

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If you wanna know if a girl likes you watch how she acts around you like if she's really outgoing and is shy around you that means she is either in like with you or she just dislikes you. Or if she is squirmy around you that means she feels awkward, in like, or she doesn't like the presence of you. I'm a girl I would know I have a crush! Not that I am like this but you know most girls are! Oh or if she's mean to everyone and nice to you she is keeping her enemies closer than friends or she's in like! Or she could be nice to everyone and be mean to you! You're very welcome if I helped any!
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How do you breakup with your boyfriend and stay friends?

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DEFINITELY NOT over text! You should tell them face-to-face that you aren't interested in dating right now and that you would rather just be friends, doesn't mean that you don't like them you just don't feel like dating at this time. :)
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How do you call a girl for a date?

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Pick up your phone... and call her. It depends what type of person you and the girl are. If you're outgoing and don't care about a "no" then just pick up your phone, dial her number, and charm her into going. But you will probably get a few laughs. If you're shy, just say "hey I am going to whatever" and "hey you know it would be awesome if you could come" or have a bunch of friends go there too so it is less awkward. Don't ask her on a "date" at all. Have some fun activity X planned for yourself, such as going to the beach or a dance club or hiking or a sport, whatever YOU like to do for fun. Casually invite her along much like you'd invite a regular (male) friend. Have a regular phone chat about the latest interesting events in your life / her life / current events just as you would with a guy friend, let the conversation wrap up "It's been good talking to you, I have to get going now for (mention the reason: work/dinner/plans/whatever)". But before you hang up, interrupt yourself to enthusiastically mention "Hey, I'm doing (activity X) later/tomorrow/Saturday (whatever day.) You should come along, it'll be fun". That takes all of the mentally stressful "date" pressure off of you and her. You're not asking her out, you're just a fun guy with fun plans and you're saying she can come have fun too. Do not even make it a question! State what your plans are and state that she can or should join you for a fun time. If she expresses interest wrap up any details quickly and GET OFF THE PHONE. More phone chat is just a chance to go downhill. Quicker and easier but less effective would be to skip the smalltalk, get on the phone and tell her you only have a moment to talk, tell her what fun thing you have planned for yourself, tell her she can or should come have fun too, and get off the phone quickly. Here is more advice from Wikifriendus contributors: Dial her number and talk to her a few times first. Then just ask her out, but make it a public place. Usually you would want to ask her if she would like to meet or to be picked up depending on how well you know each other. Don't go on a date like STRAIGHT AWAY. First find out if she wants to go out with you, if she says yes, get to know her favorite places and things. Then ask her on a date. Ask her out for a coffee, it's much easier than saying 'date'. It's not as forward as asking someone out for a meal, but still has a pseudo-romantic feel; and you keep a sort of noncommittal attitude, meaning you can always say your intentions were completely innocent. To be honest, girls feel flattered when you ask them out personally (face-to-face). If you are too shy, don't say: "Do you want to go on a date with me," say something like "I'm going ______, would you like to come along?" If you want to make a great impression, ask her out in person! Even though I am a girl...I think that you should be calm about it! Don't freak about it! It isn't like the girl you want to date will kill you if you ask! The worst she can do is say no! Ask her for her # and ask her do she wanna go. The most important thing to remember is to be yourself. Online dating sites can cause people to embellish. The quicker you remove those expectations from both sides the closer you will be to a real relationship. yeah i agree with the one about the movies... just ask to hangout don't make it seem like this whole big thing or she might get freaked out. you have to make it fun and if you call her about plans shes interested don't get off the phone right away, keep talking but maybe change the subject and when you do get off the phone say something like can't wait to see you Saturday or whenever your getting together (: much easier that way Be yourself and just ask her to a movie, if she says no don't give up there are loads of people out there! Be yourself just say "hey, I was wondering if you'd like to catch a movie saturday" Being calm is key I agree, ask her to her face! look as i a girl i know that i would definitely say yes to some one who sounds sweet and sometimes sounds shy but you must not come out and say it to my face just say or start out with a compliment and then say i would love if you and i could get together some time then definitely yes Also you could just act like ur not asking her out just be like heyy, there is a band that I think you might like that you should see and I need a ride? maybe that will work? Girls absolutely love it when you call them. Don't sound nervous, because we can tell on the other line if you are :) just be straightforward. Be like "Hey, I was wondering if you were busy this weekend? If not, would you like to go to this new resteraunt in town with me? I heard it was awesome." ...somethng like that :) You go up to her, tell her that you would like to hang out or spend time with her, and that should do it. Of course, be yourself. Don't over do it because it will show. Be honest, and tell her why you want to go out with her. Hopefully, it will be a better reason than, "You are hot!"
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How do you tell a girl you love her?

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Find out what language she speaks and tell her I love you in that language
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What is the secret of true love?

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The secret to true love as opposed to sexual love is to under stand that it is unconditional, if you love some one or something you must love it warts and all, otherwise it's conditional love. A dog can spend its life being mistreated and still welcome its master. That is true love. Before we can discuss the secret to true love, you must understand that true love is a gift that has to be valued and nourished. It's not something that you find one day like a beautiful seashell on a beach and put it up somewhere to be admired. True love is a part of life that has a life of its own. Value and nourish it, and it will grow and become deeper and more valuable. Find it, give it no value and forget to nourish it, and it will die. Simple as that. The first secret to true love is knowing when you have found the love of your life, your other half, the one who is more important to you than even yourself, the one your entire being tells you is the one for you. That may happen one day when you look across a room and meet the eyes of her or him, your eyes lock and your heart jumps, and the eyes you are looking into tell you that the same is happening on the other side of that gaze. It could also happen when you are out with someone that you have dated casually for months, but never really felt much of anything for. Suddenly, one night, your heart could leap as your eyes meet or your lips touch. Knowing you have found true love might be just a quiet knowing that the person is the one for you. It happens differently for different people. After meeting your true love, the secret to keeping the love alive is to unselfishly put the other person before yourself and communicate with that person in a positive and open manner. Many great relationships have lost their pizazz due to mistakes of one or both becoming selfish and not communicating with the other. Even those who have found their true loves have lost them because of the hurt and disappointment caused when the love of your life's actions and words say "you don't matter," "I'm for me first," and similar things. When two people find true love and each puts the others hopes, dreams, desires, and feelings above their own and communicates in such a way as to build the other up and share their innermost thoughts, beautiful things happen! The true love that was found grows into something more beautiful than a rose, deeper than the deepest ocean, and stronger than anything imaginable. Anything less than being unselfish, putting the other before yourself, and great communication and it's tough for even true love to survive. A:2 You must know how to distinguish between love and infatuation. The KEY to true Love and Romance are not like recipes that you can use for that perfect relationship. That Key is unique to every couple and relates to their social cultures and values. Almost every human relationship has its ups and downs. When people can focus on the important and valuable stuff that makes it all worthwhile, rather than curse the stuff that causes pain then they are on the way to finding true Love . You must not get caught up with the superficial physical characteristics that you would like in your mate. You should preferably focus your attention on emotional qualities like compassion, respect, cooperation and dependability that you would want your mate to demonstrate. Finding true love starts with your ability to find it first within yourself. You must be happy and contented with who you are. When you are able to create positive energy around you it will work like a sweet flower attracting the honeybees. You will be able to connect with the right person.
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How do you know if a guy is getting jealous?

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You would know because he would give you the look like he is mad at you or he will try to impress you
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What is a good dare to ask your boyfriend over the phone?

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I dare you to list five reasons as to why you like/love me.Or if they pick truth then do the same thing.
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Do guys think its cute when girls get nervous around them?

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It depends on the guy, some do and other might not.
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How do you know that the person you love loves you too?

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How to Know If You're Loved by the One You Love Well, does that person look at you in a special way? Do they seem interested in your conversations (no matter of stupid they are?) Does the person always want to spend time with you and never tries to let you down? Does s/he express her feelings in certain ways? If it looks like s/he loves you, then they probably do! Wiki s Contributors Share The Love: He most certainly likes you and values your friendship from what you say. At the moment you both perhaps LOVE being with each other and are attracted to each other. Maybe that is all you are going to know for now. Only you can decide whether or not to trust another by offering your love. I guess the only thing to rely on is some well-structured communication & time. Only these two factors will show you the way & lead you towards understanding. There's not enough said for time being a factor for love. Time can prove a lot of the elements needed for love - care and concern for the other, not being demanding of them, loyalty, continued friendship over time and distance, affection, understanding and acceptance of their faults and that they are not perfect. Saying you "love" someone is a lot easier than really loving them. I just don't think that a couple of weeks is time enough for you to really feel love. I think this is just an excitement/infatuation stage. It can lead to love, but it's not a good idea to hurry or pressure those feelings this fast. If you can only trust him if he loves you, I think you're asking too much of him already. Trust him as a friend and continue the relationship. Loving is unconditional, meaning there is no conditions that the person you love loves you back. However, to know if someone loves you all one needs to look at is the actions of that person. Words are never enough, unless they are backed by actions that match what is being said. Should some one claim they love you then hurt you with their actions then most definitely that would not in my book be considered love. You really don't know how much someone loves you. Love isn't a thing that just happens like in a fairy tale movie of "love at first sight." (I wonder what she or he will look like in "love at first sight" in 50 years' time!!) There has to be a common bond. A place in your heart and mind where you can go. Sometimes by yourself, and other times with each other. Because.... People in love will purposely hurt each other with spiteful words and actions. Hoping that the other will understand by forgiving and comforting. But.. that kind of unconditional love is very rare. Its too easy to give up and see if the grass is greener elsewhere. Love is when you care about someone else more than yourself. That's it. A good indicator is if they want to be your friend as well as being romantically involved with you. Love is something that you grow into like a young child growing into teenager clothing. Love just don't happen overnight, in one day or in one week for that matter. I think what you feel for each other in the beginning is more attraction and curiosity and with time it can change into love, but in order for true love to happen there has to be trust, honesty, sincerity and compassion in the relationship. That is the only way you really get to know that person and to know if that person really loves you. Love is something you are sure about there is no doubt. It's a strong feeling you can't explain, But you know - because you can feel it. Everyone can show love, but can they feel love. We all show our love in different ways. How about the greatest couple, who's husband buys her flowers and gifts and takes her out on a regular basis, and we all say how lucky she is, and than BOOM... The next thing you hear is they are going through a bitter divorce... and nobody can believe it. Why - because he showed his love through guilt, but she never felt love, oh sure she got a lot of flowers and gifts, but none of that matters if you don't feel love. So just because someone doesn't show you love but you can feel it - than you know it's love. You know the feeling I'm talking about... You can't make someone love you, yea in time they might grow to love, but that's a different kind of love (we all love are coffee in the morning, but were not in love with our coffee)Point being when you love someone they will love you back, there will be no doubts, because you know in your heart. He Loves Me. They don't need time to think about it. Love is a mindset that commits one person to engage into actions that include sacrifice, respect and compromise for the purpose of benefiting the person being loved. They are carried out with respect to the other person. Without respect, there's no love. True love is a continual process over time; it is not the "fuzzy feelings" or the "intense physical chemistry/attraction". These are simply lust. Unfortunately today's young men and women are so easily confused between love and lust. Love is commitment made in our cerebral cortex secondary to a brief period of excitement generated by our pleasure-seeking center, hypothalamus. Lust is a singular hormonal/emotional response driven by our pleasure seeking brain center. Love includes emotional response and actions. With only emotional responses, it's mere lust and fantasy. It is essential to have a clear definition of what love encompasses in one's mind. It can avoid a lot of hurtful feelings and encounters in dating. Like everything in life, love is relative. It means many different things to many different people. Perhaps this is because it is only an idea. Imagine if everyone who read the same description of a character in a story saw the exact same visual image in their mind? Same thing with love...each person will have a distinct idea of it. For me, love is caring about the person, being there for them no matter what it costs you (physically, emotionally, etc.), and a willingness to endure all things necessary to keep that person in your life. So, do you love someone? It depends: Do you find yourself giving up other ventures just to spend an extra moment with them? Do you enjoy talking (really talking) with them? Does this person bring out a necessity in you to be the best you can be, not for your benefit, but for their benefit? Probably the most universal sign of true love is friendship: Is this person your best friend? Because, if you two truly love each other, your time together will be like time spent between two best friends. Do you run around worried about what your best friend is doing? Do you ever question if you can trust your best friend? No! And that is the key. True love is when your lover is also your best friend. And that, I'm sorry to say, is very hard to achieve. As far as the "fuzzy feeling" is concerned: How many of us have woken up on Christmas Morning and had this sudden rush of excitement: WOO WHOOO!! It's Christmas! With my current g/f, I get that feeling when I wake up on a day I know I'll get to see her. We haven't had sex yet, so it's not a feeling in my pants. It is excitement that I finally have another opportunity to show her exactly how much she means to me, to let her know that I will always be there for her, and to and another notch to the ladder of trust that we must build. In short, it is excitement that I finally have an opportunity to do something to make her day a little more special, and seeing the smile on her face or a simple squeeze of my hand is plenty of a reward for my efforts. LOVE is the feeling deep inside that tells you when you are apart that you desperately want to be back with your loved one. It is the feeling of wanting to be as one, together! One of the most important things (already mentioned many times) is that this person should be your "best friend" and should always be considered before anyone else. They are your "world", your "rock" and should be loved unconditionally 100% of the time. It is when you want to tell the world "I love this person and I want to grow old with this beautiful person". One final thing (and this is strictly my opinion): If the two of you do not make each other laugh then there is no reason to pursue a relationship. After all, if you can't laugh all you can do is cry. When Someone Loves You: I would think it would be in how the person interacts with friends, family, etc. when the skeptic partner is not around. I was in a relationship in which at first I faked loving this person for sex. After a while, I went into a depression. I must say out of my own psychological decisions in this matter. People should be warned of narcissistic sex addicts. I was one of them and I believed I possibly suffered just as much as the person who loved me. In the end when I broke up with her. I finally heard the birds chirping. The truth will set you free. I think what is essential is never having to pretend to be anyone on both sides. People like to wear masks in fear and waste a lot of time with the belief there is no true love and just sex. In which at this moment I believe. He should always think of me and even express his love to me. Yes he can think of you all the time in the wrong way. He can call you every minute with the intention of bedding you and making you a statistic. What I would suggest is give the time dimension of love a chance. After ample time you can separate the wine from the vinegar. The only thing I have to suggest is don't say I love you again just say I care about you until he says it to you without you saying it first make sure he is looking you in the eyes and if it is at the perfect moment then he probably means it and complain that he doesn't say it in front of his friends, if he does he loves you. You'll have to ask: There's no way to know for sure, you shouldn't rush into things. If you have been going out for a while and you feel ready to tell them the way you feel then wait until it feels right and go for it, be prepared that they might not feel as strongly yet, but it doesn't mean they never will. If you think it might be a little soon or you haven't gone out together I wouldn't rush into things, make it clear you really care for them and wait until later to tell them how you feel, you don't want to scare them off. The only way to tell if someone loves you is to ask, but be careful how you do it. If you find someone who understands and endures the hardships, enjoys the good times to the fullest, then you will know. Time will tell. It is a lifetime of learning, teaching and caring for one another. Hey! where do I sign up for class? I will know that the person i love loves me too, maybe if he always look for me, which made his day complete. Only way you know someone loves you is by how much sacrifices they will put up to make you happy. Being unselfish, caring about you more then himself. It goes both ways though. If everyone thought of what would make their lover's happy instead of what makes them happy, they'll be a overflow of love. Love is sacrifices. I believe and feel if a man or woman loves you they wouldn't do anything to hurt you. And knowing we all are imperfect I feel that if a problem was acknowledged that that person would come together with unconditional love and work this out. They would appreciate you for your worth and help you when you are in the need of them. Love is not thinking to ones self " what is this going to do for me", but will say or think "what can I do to help this person I love". But when you get people who are always thinking about themselves all the time. That is not real true love. And a person must be worthy of love as well. Some don't know how to love and leave you bitter for the next person who you try to love. Actions speak louder than words. It's better to know someone loves you without being told 'cause anyone can say 'I love you' and also it does not matter how long you're together to say 'I love you' cause love has no time limit you go by when it's there it's there, say it when you feel it and it could be infatuation but I would hope you'd know the difference. You can see from her eyes, body language and her attention to you. Well, to tell if a guy LOVES you: While you're seeing him, and those times when you are not physically together, you won't feel lonely inside, as if something that you can't put your finger on is missing. You'll feel absolutely right about the whole thing. Little "red flags" or "empty holes" inside of you won't be there while you are with him or while you are not with him. It's a feeling as if things all around are complete and with no confusion. Together you can both act silly or even goofy. Maybe even stupid together once in a while, while in public or around others you both will act "mature" (whatever that is supposed to be). You'll be able to talk about ANYTHING together without having "taboo" subjects. Aside from him actually looking you in the eye and telling you that he is in love with you, and you feeling it, the other signs I've mentioned as well are what I believe to be a factor too. You should feel like there are more in depth growth going on aside from how great the sex is between you both or on top of how merely polite he is. There's more to it than great sex and polite ways. Tell them that you love them. Stick around for a while to see if they say it back. Casually mention it every once in a while after that, when the do something particularly nice or when you are parting or saying goodnight. If they don't say it within say, a month or so, then ask just ask them. It may not occur to them to say it, but by asking them after giving them a chance and the hints to do so on their own, you'll know if they do now or think they ever will. You know that someone loves you when they look deeply into your eyes and says in a soft voice that they love you and no matter what happens or what else is said you get that feeling inside knowing that deep down you love them too. And you just feel so amazing inside. They will love you and hold on to you, they will be there in a time of need. That is how you know. When you get the sweet phone calls out of the blue or when they look into your eyes and you can see the love. You can almost see right to there soul. You can tell by their body movements when you're around. You can really feel in your heart. When they are not around how much you miss them. Most males and females will agree that the best way to find out how your significant other feels about you is to ask directly. You don't is the answer to that, you'll never know that the person you've fallen for loves you back you just have to trust that they do. I'm in love with a person who lives a 5 hour drive away from me and so I get to see him once a month, he could have a secret life away from me and flirt with all the girls in his city for all i know but I don't worry about that because I really trust that he loves me just as much as I love him, maybe even more. I don't know this I just trust in my instinct. Trust in yours too and you'll be fine. If there's a slight doubt in your mind that he / she doesn't love you back then he / she hasn't convinced you enough and therefore doesn't love you enough to make you believe how he / she feels.. therefore maybe doesn't feel that way at all. Its not about you knowing if he / she loves you it's about him / her making you believe in it. I think it's a reciprocated love. When you start investing your time and effort and he reciprocates it with love and care from there you can already prove it. It takes two tango. Your instincts will tell you. They wont lie. Mine didn't ;-). Listen to what your gut tells you (untainted by either hopefulness or pessimism this is the best way of telling), it'll tell you whether there's an electric connection or not. But hey, maybe I got lucky. You should be able to ask him and tell him to tell the truth if he does or not because my boyfriend loves me and tells it to me. If you can't feel it chances are it ain't there. Time is precious. Tell them how you feel. They should then admit, commit or quit.... You'll feel it and just know that they do.. It's a feeling after all, it's magic. To find true love: Love this person with all your heart and hope that it's mutual. You'll know if it is. You will know if a person loves you if he/she will do everything just to make you smile in every single way. You will know if someone loves you if he/she sacrifices his/her own emotions just to make you happy. You will know if someone loves you he/she Shows his care for you trough actions not through words. You will know if someone loves you if he/she accepts you know matter who you are wholeheartedly. If you are in love with that person, you two must be close and chances are, they love you back. You should take a chance and just tell them, even though a close friendship is at risk. Try to look for hints that suggest they love you, for a little while. Then when you have seen enough proof, confess your love! Try sudden things like hugging from behind, and see if they blush. Give them many opportunities to confess THEIR love, or to hint about it. All of these friendus are correct in my eyes. Love is different to different people. But all love has a few things in common, trust and understanding. To understand and accept a persons flaws isn't always an easy thing to do. But one who is able to accept a person as a whole, flaws and imperfections included, is capable of truly loving. when you get that feeling that they couldn't do anything wrong, or anything to make you hate them... you know you love them. Its an understanding that can be seen... you can see it in their eyes. and when you two are cuddled up or as close as can be, and you still feel like they should be closer... you know that you are in love. you think about them constantly... never missing a minute. you anticipate the next time you get to see them. its so hard to explain... it's a gut feeling that you just know. Trust your instincts. Also, that person welcomes you into his/her life, trusts you, treats you with respect, and is not mean to you. I am happily married and I know my husband loves me because he always puts my needs before his own, and I try to do the same for him. I think you can never really know, but as long as they are scared to lose you and show that they care about you in some way they love you, sometimes you have to let them go just to see if they'll come back. Tell them you love them and see if they tell you they love you back. You can also tell HOW they say it, if she or he hesitates or doesn't say it right, then you know somethings wrong.
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What do you do if you love someone but she does not care about you in the same way?

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Sweetie, if she does not care why should you? Don't keep fighting for someone who will not fight for you in return. Life is too short and there is someone out there that will be just as interested in you as you are in her. Take that advise from someone who knows. Well, I definitely and absolutely agree with the answer above me. If she doesn't show any signs at all of even caring about you at all even in the future, just try and forget about her. No matter how much it hurts to even consider driving her out of your memory. You have only one life to live, and you shouldn't spend all your time dwelling over someone who doesn't care about you. There's someone out there that loves you just as much as you love her, just don't loose hope. She's one girl, there are plenty in the world. Look, I'm a girl and the same situation happened to me, it was reverse, because he said he loved me, but I didn't nor do I feel that way for him. So, to tell u the truth there isn't really a way for u get back with her in the way you want. My advice is to avoid her when she's flirting with a guy or closely talking to a guy, because you are going to cause yourself pain. Maybe, the feeling for her will enviably form into a different form of love the way she has it for you. I sorry that she hurt you. I am a girl, and have been told those three terrifying words more than once. If someone doesn't love you, the smart and rational thing to do. But love isn't smart OR rational. If you stay patient, and get closer to this special person and maybe, things might change. You may see the real them, and decide that they aren't worth the time. Or they might see the real you, and realize that you are more special to them than they previously thought. You can never give up hope!! Keep going. Pursue everything. I think you should carry on trying for them because you only live once and at the end of the day if you really have bad feeling for them then you shouldn't have to forget about them till you know if they definitely don't like you back. TRUST, I'm in the same boat at the moment and its killing me that I can't tell the person how I feel but keep trying till you know for sure. don't give up but don't look desperate at the same time. if you loved someone and she does not feel the same way maybe she is not ready for a relationship i wouldn't give up but i also wouldn't make any advances towards the person. if he knows that you are interested and knows that you will always be around, then make yourself scarce and maybe he will get the idea you don't care anymore and if he cares at all that person will come to you if it was meant to be. men don't like to be ignored or snubbed, they like the attention, so just sit back and see if he comes to you and if hr don't then move on there's plenty of fish in the ocean I'm a girl and I had to change my mind about guys before. If you keep on trying I'm sure she will fall for you in the end. Give up because if she don't care bout you then why waste your time in life there are people who you can sometimes never have is sucks to her buts its the truth! I'm a girl myself and I have been told that many times but if you tell her or him and you know they truly love you back then i just want to say good luck with your love I have been called A misses clause, I love you, baby girl, hot stuff and I'm just 12 but I think you should say it at least once. Just make sure that you have told her to her face that you really like her and if you definitely no she doesn't like you move on there's plenty more fish in the sea. tell her but if u don't want to do that hold on 2 her make her feel like shes really special. I agree with the first answer, if she doesn't love you there is nothing you can do. I know it hurts to imagine yourself forgetting about her, but how can you honestly be happy with someone who cant return your love. This is for face and looks the other way. Give a girl a compliment and she says "whatever". Am I really going to tell her I love her? I' am afraid she might kill me. A girl would just do her best to be polite in saying that she can't return the affection, and if she does like you she will possibly have some affection for you. Ask her what she thinks of you but don't just dump her without talking to her because that is just rude anymore and we were 3 days! I was in the town in a shop I checked my Texts and there it was! I nearly had a break down.
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What does it mean when you hit climax?

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Orgasm during sex and it can also mean to hit the high point or peak. "The man hit the climax of his speech, when he quoted Winston Churchill, to the delight of the crowd." and another example of 'climax' is: "The music reached a climax when the violin solo ended."
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Why would a guy wink and smile at a girl while playing in a band?

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May be the guy like very much to the girl and want to say something. Suppose, it is a first sign before creates any love.
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How do you know when you are truly in love?

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You know that you are in love when you are truly in love when you can't stand being away from that person for to long, when you are willing to do anything for that person like me, I found out the first time because I couldn't stop looking in her eyes I love being around her and every day we grow closer and closer some times it gets hard but at the end she knows how much I love her and how much she means to me! You know you're in love by everything you do, you do thinking about that special someone. You wake up and that person comes to your mind. You count the minutes to talk to them and see them. Thinking about that person makes you smile and even just looking at them makes you smile. Their mistakes seem cute to you and make you laugh. All you want to do is be with them even if you guys are bored and not doing anything. It's meaningful just because your with them. You put your love first than anyone and try to be a better person just for them. That person gives your life meaning. They are your best friend at the same time as your lover and will give you the advice you need. The fights and disagreements do not make you stop loving them. To make it short, he or she is your world. Don't worry, you will just know. If you ask, you either doubt your feelings, in which case you aren't truly in love, or you don't know if the relationship will/would work out, which is an altogether different question, since being truly in love isn't enough for a successful relationship, though it's a good start, especially if by "you" you mean "both of you". There are a lot of indicators that allows you to know when you are in love. I realized recently that even if you see your love everyday at work, even if they sit right next to you, every time you turn around and you look at this person it feels like your seeing him/her for the first time, and that awesome feeling come over you, and you just feel like the luckiest person in the world. You look at that person and you just feel like you can do anything, you feel inspired to be a better person, like you're the king of the world. You want to be a better person for yourself and for that person. All your self doubt and issues disappear with just one look.Being truly in love makes you love and respect yourself, and in essence you will know.Remember you must love yourself before you can truly love someone else. I believe that you don't have to think about it; you just know.You get this amazing feeling when they touch you or just hold you.You get butterflies no matter how long you have known them.When they hug you, every wall that you have ever built from keeping them out breaks down.You just want to be with them. Laying in their arms just makes you forget about the world and all the pain.I believe you know your in love when there always on your mind when you see them you get nervous. I've known her for years and we have been friends for four years and I still get nervous when I see her. She's gets me frustrated, but I can never be mad. I love everything about her, even her imperfections.You cant help who you love its just something that happens. you cant choose no matter how much you want to. True love never ends. When you know that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your whole life with, you won't have a second glance at another man/woman, you trust them in anything and everything, when not everything is about sex, when you greet them you feel all warm and fuzzy inside and wear a big great smile on your face and you rush to meet then with a kiss and hug, when you are apart your heart aches, when you think about the future you only see you and him and possibly marriage and babies, a happy family, if another guy/girl makes a pass at you and you proudly say to them, i have a boyfriend and tell them to back off please, when you look into your lovers eyes and you just keep staring, you just know really, deep down that they are the one, because you'd do anything in the world for that person, and couldn't imagine your life without them. This is very lame but true. You know when you are in love when: -you look at him/her, he/she is the only person you see in the room -he/she smiles, you feel warm heatwaves rushing through your body -he/she looks at you, you want to hold onto the stare forever -every time you go home, you miss his/her voice and smile and personality -you wake up in the morning, the first thing you think of is him/her Believe in your instincts; don't let people put you off true love. Get to know this person before you make any moves. When you can't stand to be away from this person for more than a second and when you have a bad day as soon as you see their face you forget what was wrong and your heart skips a beat when they're around. That's how you know when your in love. When you THINK about that person every night, when you stare at them in class or at work or when you want to tell that person how you feel about him/her, or when you cry about that person and want to send him a letter, but are afraid to. I personally think, when your stomach feels funny, you can't wait to see him/her and you feel very nervous about it too. When you are always thinking of him/her. When you are very shy and timid towards him or her. When your body trembles when touched. I'm pretty sure that's real love. I think that true love is unconditional... It's not about a feeling you have but about a decision you have made... You just know in your heart that this person is for you - not because they are perfect - cause even their imperfections attract you to them... But your strength is their weakness and your weakness is their strength - and so you love balancing one another out and make a great time in the race of life! LOVE IS NOT A FEELING - IT IS AN ACT OF YOUR WILL! And if it is God's plan for you... all the better! You will have absolute peace in your heart! When you are willing to do anything for this person, you think about her/him all the time, you want to be with them, you want to spend time with them, you wonder what they are up too, the thought of them just races through your mind all day, you just want them to always be happy. Well when you are in love it seems like a happy feeling and most probably you would be more positive. You might daydream a lot. You may appear to be nervous and do something completely unpredictable in front of him. You may get nervous when he looks at you. You think a lot about him. If you are truly in love... there is no mistaking it. It's so overwhelming that it seems to take you completely away. Have you ever experienced something so intense, so complete, so infatuating that you seem to disappear, you lose yourself. That's love. When you are with that someone and they are all you see, feel... you lose yourself in that someone. It's scary... but there is no other feeling like it in the whole world. When you wake up in the morning and within minutes... he/she is all you begin thinking about... when you go to bed and your bed is empty... even though your in it... it's empty. When you save your Tee Shirt he/she wore.... you can smell her/his fragrance... your captivated... almost helpless it seems... when your talking on the phone and through any silence... knowing they're on the other end... it's enough...just knowing they're there. It's unbelievable you know. You don't. Love doesn't exist in the ridiculous way that it is broadcast on TV and in books. It just happens and it's not something you can identify or label. Another When you are truly in love you may not be able to identify or label it at first but you will definitely know it's different from anything you have experienced before and unless you have experienced it you will not understand what is being said on these friendus. There are different levels of love and I believe that you can love people along the way in your life but once in a while you meet someone special who just knocks you off your feet. It is very different and you will soon realize that it is very different and special. You accept them for everything that they are, he/she can walk into the room and everything else disappears, they are always on your mind and in your heart, you can't imagine being with anyone else and even if separated for long periods of time you are never even remotely tempted, you want to share everything that you love with that person and want him or her to share everything that they love with you. They become your world but you become a better individual because of that special person. You have more to offer everyone and everything in your life. If separated for long periods of time it's not "out of sight out of mind" it is ' I can't wait to see him/her again' and it seems to last forever until you do. It is deep love and long-lasting love and can stand the test of time when nothing else does.
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Should you tell your friend that you are in love with her?

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== If you truly love her tell her. The easiest way is to just tell her straight forward. She may need some time to think at first, or maybe she likes you back too, but in the same way you were wondering whether to tell her, she may have been wondering whether to tell you, too. So go on and tell her because it doesn't hurt to try. == Or you might not jump and just say, "I love you." You might be better off to wait and go out with them before you even bring up "love." If someone says to you right out of the blue "I love you," it could be a little shocking. == Well I might go for the making her "realize" that she's in love with you first. But I guess it depends. How long have you been friends with her and how close friends are you?? But I would wait a while before going to the direct approach. But not too long. ;~) == I feel the same way about one of my friends but i wouldn't describe it as "love"but I really like her. This is how my experience went down. One day me and my friends got off the bus and I told my best friend that I was going to invite him and one girl to it for free and he says that he would take the girl I like to it. So I said that I was thinking about asking her the week before and that I wanted to take her and he said let's turn it into a competition as we did before and he beat me to her first but I said that didn't work and then we got under each other's skin and I finally said best man gets her but lets not let her get between us so then we shook on it and the next day I asked her out first then I started to gloat and he got mad because now she was my girlfriend and we both like her so he asks her out in chorus the next day and she says yes but both me and the girl thought he really asked her out so my best friend told me that it was hypothetical and she took it wrong so now he has her and I get mad because he broke the bro-code. So the next couple of days were weird because the girl was like a really good friend of mine so we didn't say much and she sat really close to me in classes. that night we had a chorus concert and my friends and I made him break up with her so she got dumped and at the concert I told her to meet me at lunch the next day when everybody left so the period before lunch was chorus again so my friend was like you made me break up with her now you won't get with her and he got all mad and then the girl's cousin was like oh she's my cousin she will say yes to me (the cousin was a girl) so she went and asked her out for me after I told her not to and the girl was embarrassed and then told both me and my friend no so the moral of the story is if the girl is really good friends with you just like ask her out to the movies or something and then the wheels are in motion and then just play it from there but never never say love unless she does and don,t ever act desperate. == If you think that it won't hurt your friendship then yes. If you think she will return the favor then yes. If you are unsure that she will say yes then ask indirectly. If you think she will say no then don't, you aren't sure enough of yourself. == There are two choices -- you tell her or you keep that feeling bottled up, and if she happens to fall in love and it's not you then you're screwed really. Take my advice and tell her because if you don't you'll end up like me sad and still in love with the one who will never be mine. Go straight and tell her. If you don't you may end up in love with that 'someone' forever and moping about how she will never be yours .
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What do girls look for in guys?

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Tricky question because of the infinite amount of variants involved in the minds of women. No two are the same and no woman is ever looking for the same thing every day. So, hold onto your pants because this answer is going to be long... To start let me give you the wrong friendus that everyone always gives: Humor, Kindness, Hotness, Great Hair, Money, Romance, A Great Laugh, A Big... uh Car..., Loves Kids, Eye Color, and etc. Why are they wrong? Because these are things girls are attracted to in guys, its not necessarily what they are looking for. There are variant levels of attraction and at each level you must be willing to look at each woman and understand what she may be looking for. One woman may be ready to find a new life partner while the one right next to her may have just gotten out of a relationship and needs to find herself. So be sensitive to the situation a woman is in but be a man in the sense that if you want something you go out there and you try your hardest to get it. So: Level 1 : The Attraction This level is reserved for mainly physical or shallow attraction. Its what I would call the "getting her attention" phase. Because that is what you need to do. Unlike men, women have hundreds of suitors approaching them and vying for their attention every day. Sadly you don't have the luxury of being able to walk by a woman and have her understand the person you are deep down. 1. Confidence : Now confidence is not arrogance or cockiness. It's the underlying idea that you are not in need of a woman, you just want one and you can find one anywhere. The truth lies in this, confidence can be seen from across a room. A man in the center of a conversation and making people laugh is always viewed as the confident one, the man sitting in a corner booth under shadows and watching conversations happen from across the room doesn't exude confidence. 2. Attractiveness : This is also much different than the ideal of drop dead perfect genes. Look toward GQ and Esquire on what it means to take care of yourself. Get a haircut that actually is meant to be on your head. Get a $100 suit and spend $75 getting it tailored (it'll make it look like a $800 suit). Learn how to use cologne. Learn how to handle yourself, the way you walk, dance, and speak are all attractiveness factors. If you look like you take care of yourself, you look like you can take care of her. It's that simple. (By the way this factor is usually what people confuse for women wanting tons of money, they want to be taken care of, it's different). Level 2 : The Spark Now, unlike guys a woman can be completely attracted to a guy and not need to instantly fly to his bedroom. A woman's attraction opens her up to the spark. The spark is where you seperate yourself from the crowd of other men. This is where you need to step out of the shallowness and really show her where you are special, what inner talents, skills, or passions you have are to be used to do the following: 1. Make her feel special : If she doesn't feel like she's special what is the purpose of being with you? Don't be afraid to let her know (in a creative and not just literal way) why you are interested in her. Calm down, don't go writing love sonnets just yet, you've got to get to know her first. 2. Make yourself look special : Bring her attention to that which separates you from the crowd. What do you have that no other man has? It better be more than the shallow stuff because you've got a lot of people out there better at it than you, unless you are Justin Timberlake. Do you have an affinity for charity, do you love your mother, do you write music, etc. 3. Now connect the two : Show her how you are connected. Girls want a connection. They want to feel as though they could marry you but don't want to feel like you are pressuring them for that yet. How will your being together rewrite the stars and spawn a whole book's worth of love poetry because the world will rejoice in the union of your two souls? Level 3 : The Relationship Now that you've secured her phone number or the date or whatever you can begin on this level. It's time to start to see if you are meant to be together. What do girls want at this point? More than a hundred thousand things always in perfect balance and different focuses based on what her day / week / month / year / or life has been like. A woman who needs to hear "I love you" five times a day one day can need a few days without a single call from you on other days. What does a girl want then? The answer is your responsiveness to her needs and for you to not give up on her. That's it. You can be funny, charming, strong, fragile, serious, angry, or a host of every other 100% opposite feelings as long as you are being real with her. The greatest part of a relationship is tied to the most frustrating part. The closeness needed for a strong relationship can only come out of fighting to understand that other person and how to meet each other in ways that you both need. In this stage you have to ask yourself: Is she worth it? Even when we are fighting or going through a rough patch do I still want to be with her? If you cannot answer yes to both of these questions, you need to let her go. This too is something a woman looks for. In truth the hardest part of any of this is the willingness to put yourself out there. Because when you're out there you can get rejected and it hurts, a lot. You can be afraid, and to be honest sometimes I still am, but the truth is that real confidence is the courage to be scared of something but go do it anyway. I'm not telling you that if you do these steps you won't get rejected, because any time you deal with women you will. But getting out there is the only way to find confidence. Good luck.
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How do you know when you are in love?

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...or if it's only a crush? There is only one way you can tell if you're truly in love: you don't wonder about it, you just know that it's there. (People have been asking this ever since love was invented.) ____ It is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don't know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can't be easily answered. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn't that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up. ____ When you are in love, you are sort of paranoid when the person comes around. When you see them, you are trying to make yourself more to something that you know they'll like, even if it means pretending to be a person that doesn't know who they really are. When you are in love, you can't describe your feelings and you feel so blind because love removes all the pain you feel. When you come across your crush, you feel like you are melting and as if you are going to faint. Sometimes, when you feel that you want to faint, you try and play around that you fainted, just to fall into his/her arms. When someone says "Love is blind, as far as the eye can see", it's best to believe it. ____ You know you are in love when you see them and you go tingly and warm. You know when you are into space. ____ When you are in love (been there).....well, when you first start going out you are all nervous to see them....but then after a couple of months you don't get nervous any more but you still feel this giggly feeling...you feel like you are floating and you are sooo happy and you want to spend so much time with this person it's great...but take it slowly, others aren't always as ready as you are for love. ____ You know you're in love when all you can do is think about them day and night...when all you can do is fear of losing them, someone else replacing you...you find them to be the most beautiful person whom ever existed...Everything they do is right in your eyes and they can do no wrong.. That person makes you feel special and you want to be with them 24/7...Its more of an emotional connection..That person makes you want to be a better person...you do things for them you never did to anyone else before..you just know you're in love (a feeling)..When you find the love of your life time stops with everything else and he/she is the only thing that moves... ____ I've been in love before and when I see him I don't feel warm and tingly inside, but my stomach flips and it feels like I'm on a roller coaster! You're absolutely right that when you're in love, you don't act like yourself around that person. It's nearly impossible to act like yourself around someone you are in love with because you're afraid that they won't like the real you! But, to get them to love you for real you have to just be who you really are. It might sound cheesy but it's true! You'll get a special feeling in your heart.. Something that will make you cry to sleep if you imagine that person being harmed or with someone else.. You want to be with that person. They enter your thoughts a lot... You get carried away sometimes. Yet you don't care, because it's all for that person... <3 Wow! congratulation, but wait is this person single or married? You will know if you are falling in love through your heart, it will beat faster every time you see this person. when your away from this person your heart feels a bit sad because you miss this person. You can't stop thinking of this person and most of all you feel excited every time you see the person.. In addition you will know by having this smile in your face every time you think of the person, your heart will have this little happy kick. Unfortunately, I am describing hoe the man I marry fell in love with the woman he met on a dating site. But still it is how a person will feel when he or she is in love. I felt that way to when I fell in love with my husband years ago. ____ You never know when you are in love unless you meet the following 3 criteria: The love is unconditional. The love is forever. The love must be in both of you. --- You know when you're in love : you are able to be open with each other, and you make a commitment to that person. When that person tells you "I love you", you get butterflies and you feel special. Now if you are a guy it's different sometimes; but you know you're in love when your feelings are deep, and you see each other's eyes in the world. I'm in love, i know, i know more than anything i love this person, you can just feel it! There's no denying it. It's built in there, somewhere, you just have to find it. Once you fall in love, it's all you can do to stay alive. I would die if i lost my better half. I can't live in a world where he doesn't exists. You may be one person to the world, but to one person you are the world. --- Well It sounds really stupid but every one knows in different ways you will know and have a gut feeling you will know i promise. You will feel butter flys in your stomach when you see the person, think about them, or if you smile by the mention of the name. ___ LOVE= SACRIFICE ___ I think Love is when you hear his/her voice you melt. When you look at there eyes and you notice the color for the first time, and its the most beautiful thing you have ever seen. when you run to them with any issue you may have and you KNOW that they will do all in there power to save you as best they can, even if its something small. and they love you for just the way you are, they love every little weird face and silly laugh you have to offer. That to me is perfect love ___ You know you are in love when all you can think about is that special person. When you haven't talked in awhile, anywhere from ten minutes to ten days, do you long for his/her voice? ____ Is there a moment where, if it were anyone else you would be embarrassed, but with them you feel proud? When he/she is talking or just sitting there do you just stare at them in awe, then replay that image every night before you fall asleep? Has he/she said something that you've gotten stuck in your head like a song; but instead of it growing annoying, you crave to hear it more and more? Are they your first thought you think when you wake up? The last thing on your mind before you fall asleep? Is he/she someone you can see yourself growing old with, and in your old age will you still long for the touch of their hand? When you don't want to fall asleep at night because reality is better than your dreams When they're not just your boyfriend/girlfriend, they're your best friend too. When you're with them, you don't think about anything. You're just there, enjoying that moment not matter what else is going on in your life. When you don't need a big speech to tell them how much they mean to you. When you want every moment with them to last a lifetime its how they care and look you in the eyes and you can feel that you want to be with this person forever ! If you always stare at them or think of them & feel good around them ____ I say it is when you don't second guess it.
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Can a 17 year old girl kiss a 15 year old boy?

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Be carfull, kisses can lead to other acts! But Yes!
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How can you turn a guy friend with benefits into a boyfriend when you both agree that you are compatible?

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Tell him that you really enjoy being with him and that you would like to date him. Ask him out. In my opinion you need to talk to him and let him know that you would like him to be something more than a friend with benefits. that happened to me and now my friend with benefits is my boyfriend. GOOD LUCK... Just be honest and open. In relationships, ALWAYS be honest and open. Tell him how you feel. That's it. Stop being a friend with benefits. If the benefits include sex, and you're the one who brought up compatibility, he's either looking for someone who's more than just compatible (then your chances are rather low, at least short-term; if he still doesn't find someone in, say, 2 years, you may be able to convince him to take you) or he's not looking at all.
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What flirty questions should you ask your crush?

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These are some fun, flirty questions that you can ask a boy or girl that you like, or don't like. Just remember, it's often not what you ask but how you ask it. Body language means a lot! So smile, lean in, focus your eyes on his/hers and ask away! 1. What's your perfect kiss? 2. What's your perfect date? 3. What's your perfect girl? 4. If you could take your girlfriend/boyfriend anywhere in the world, where would you go and why? 5. Is it ever okay to cheat? Why? 6. What's the most interesting thing you've ever been caught doing? 7. Do you like girls/boys who make the first move? 8. What are some nicknames you'd like your girlfriend/boyfriend to call you? 9. What are nicknames you'd call your girlfriend/boyfriend? 10. What's the farthest you've gone not in a relationship? 11. What's the farthest you've gone in a relationship? 12. What's your dream future? (house, car, kids, pets, etc.) 13. What was your first impression of me? 14. What kind of relationship are you looking for? 15. What's the biggest turn off in a girl/boy? 16. What's the biggest turn on? 17. What would you rather be called? (cute, hot, sexy, attractive, etc.) 18. What is love at first sight to you? Do you believe in it? 19. Do you honestly think you have a good body? 20. What do you think is your best feature? 21. What do you think is a girl's/boy's best feature? 22. What would you do for a romantic anniversary? 23. Where is your favorite place to be kissed? (lips, nose, cheek, forehead, etc) 24. Where is your favorite place to be touched? 25. Describe yourself in 3 words. 26. Describe me in 3 words. 27. Would you ever consider us as anything more than friends? 28. What's your favorite thing about me? 29. If you could date anyone famous, who would it be and why? 30. How did a girl/boy like me end up getting to know a boy/girl like you?
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How do you impress a young girl or aunties at first sight?

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Answer 1: First thing first, you have to develop the persona of a high value man. what is that mean?it means you need to FEEL like some one who couldn't care less if some one (girl) like him or not. that doesn't mean you are going to start act like a jerk.here are some principle to follow: 1. don't make to much effort to make her laugh/amuse her. wen telling jokes, you need the most important thing is to amuse yourself. 2. try to be the first to break contact/go away. make it clear that your time worth more than just stick around her. 3. tease her a bit. don't insult her!! just show her you are playful, and by teasing you'll look like a confidence guy, and not a needy one. NOTE: those are just guide lines for the beginning of the interaction, when you want to create attraction. Answer 2: I'm a girl and it is my personal thinking of my dream man must be caring, brave and physically strong. Hence the man who have all of these virtues, obviously impress me a lot. Answer 3: You have to always tell her you that you like her! That's all a girl wants to hear. The boy can tell funny jokes or do cool tricks to impress her. Then when the time is right, make your move on her! All a girl can dream about is a first kiss! Answer 4: Or, you can show off your masculinity.
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How can you tell if someone really likes you or if they are using you?

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You can't really be sure. Think about the situation from all angles. Inside and out. Think until you can't think any more because that's the only thing you can do. The friendus are there, just keep your feelings a separate entity from the situation entirely. If they love you then they would do anything for you and if they didn't but they used you then they would push you aside. The way to tell if they really like you is if they have respect for your wishes and they won't mind if you want to 'wait'. But whatever you feel is not connected to what they feel. Sometimes you love someone, sometimes someone loves you. And SOMETIMES, the one you love is also the one that loves you. If someone really likes you If someone really likes you they would do everything in their power to "Unselfishly" show you so. they will never be embarrassed to be around you, and they will never make fun of you or hurt you. they will talk to you all the time and give you space. you can tell because you will never want to leave them. You can normally tell when their whole heart and soul is about you. Sometimes that is true love, which isn't normally found. they will be all about YOU, instead of other people, they won't be as much into showing you off. they will respect your wishes while not just bending to your every whim. If they're using you If they're using you they won't be interested in you and just want you on their arm. they will be all over you when another guy/girl comes around you. they will only ever contact you for that one thing and nothing else. So if you find out and can test it out It will be plain to see if you look out for it, but it just might be hard to accept it. We all make mistakes, so if you find out that you are being used, then don't be too hard on yourself. It's OK. You wouldn't want to be with them. The person will do his best to make you happy and when he is with you, try to see if he is focused on you or another girl, then you know what to do from there. You can test it out. Try talking about something deep, like your plans and goals for the future. If he seems interested in the conversation, you know he's in love. If he seemed 'distracted' or uncaring, then he's just using you. The person should not want you just for your body, money, or anything that's out in the world, if he really likes you then he/she would start to hang around you or smile sometimes even be pretty shy. Every couple gets in fights and they make sarcastic remarks, but it's usually pretty easy to know the difference. Just follow your heart and do what feels right. Here are some tips Love is a very big word to use now, especially these days, but when you think a guy or a lady likes you, here are some tips for all of us. I should be willing to spend some time with you, even though that time will be spent listening to your boring stories. I should wait for the right time to be intimate with you, but I promise it won't take more than a month, because I believe that it will strengthen the relationship. Both of us should know that in our relationship we are both involved here. You will know if they like you because they will pick up on all the little things you do. Whether it's fiddling with your hair when you're nervous, holding your elbows when you're cold or biting your lip when you're happy. Whatever it is they will be able to pin point at least one of your quirks. You can tell by asking them what they think of you. If it stupid reasons then obviously they are using you. If they are unbelievable awesome friendus, then they aren't using you. When you ask your crush if you can use his stuff and he farts or burps he likes you. If he asked you if he can ''borrow'' your pencil he likes you. Before you start dating ask some of his friends if he likes you. If they ask why say ''oh because I heard a rumour, just wanted to know''. If they say yes then ask him out. If he respects you enough to keep your relationship private and holds off on the physical stuff he genuinely cares about you. However if he is pushy and constantly brags to his friends about your relationship he is using you for his ego. When an x or simply a boy or girl walks in the room and suddenly they are really into you, flirting, giggling and they keep on looking at the person. Example of a situation There's a girl, let's call her Sue. She likes me. There's another girl, Nancy. Nancy is jealous of Sue. She fights with Sue to make her angry and avoid me so she can move in and hit on me. She's not hitting on me out of pure interest, she's doing it because it makes Sue jealous. This is an example of a situation where it actually is easy to tell if someone is using you. Another simple way to tell Here's another simple way to tell if a girl really does like you or if she's just using you. If a girl wants to spend time with you and doesn't care about anything else, she wants you. When she wants to spend time with you and wants you to buy everything for her and drags you along to wherever she wants, she's using you. If she hangs around her friends and laughs or giggles whenever you come near, she's using you. It's that simple. If you still have doubts about this person, then it's not a good relationship anyway. Don't be afraid of breaking up, it's part of growing up and becoming more mature. It won't be a mistake. Keep your head up. There's always another fish in the sea. Try to get on with it There are a number of questions that can be raised if alarm bells ring when a person one has started dating or seeing begins to 'not turn up' for a date or just plain cancel, on a regular basis. One offs are ok, as long as there is communication. Is there is a lack of respect with regard to their communication or rather, the lack of? If things had started well and then one of you stops communicating, the reason may not always be that the person has decided they have had their 'needs' fulfilled and have used you. If the person who feels abandoned starts to fret and call, text and trouble the other, this may cause them to flee and be even more distant. Try to get on with your own enjoyment, this may well be a chance for you to take up a new hobby or pursue an adventure which may well help you to realize that you may have come across as quite 'needy'. This, in my experience, never helps when the other person has become emotionally distant. I read that in particular, a man who is having feelings towards someone, they will disappear for a while, to have space and to think. This is known as 'Going into his cave'. Men seem to have a need for space to reflect on his feelings. When a man has had this space, without interruption, he is ready to show he has feelings and the cycle will go on. A woman seems to need the security of their partner being 'on tap' with response and communication. A person whom you are in a relationship with, if they have feelings for you, wouldn't think twice to let you know what is going on in the relationship. They want to be with their choice of partner and would, in the beginning stages of a fresh relationship, spend quite a bit of time getting to know that person. A person who decides to abuse the trust, by making the relationship into more of a convenience for them, is using the other person. If someone doesn't enter a new relationship with pure intention, the alarm bells will start to ring. Try to keep your self-worth intact with regards to relationships, if they start to unwind.
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How many shots does a 6th grader need?

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It all can vary, but to be on the safe side, next time you see your doctor, ask him or her because I am not a doctor.

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