get off the computer... get a job... get a nice car and dress
stylish, that's all it takes.
Just because you don't have a girlfriend doesn't mean that you're
unpopular or that you have to feel lonely. Remember that your
self-worth doesn't depend on having a signifigant other. However,
if you do want a girlfriend (which you obiviously do if you're
asking this question), try joining more clubs or teams. It's a
great way to meet people, i.e. females. Be funny! Girls love that.
I agree with the first answer - get off the computer. Get involved
in some outside activity that interests you: join a club at school,
volunteer with a community or church group, just get out and meet
Self-confidence is very important. If a girl thinks you have low
self-confidence, she will usually pass you by. Like the previous
friendus stated, you should become more active at school. Try to be
more outgoing as well. I mean don't be too outgoing because you
might get annoying. (trust me, I've seen it happen)
Once you are confident in yourself, she will see that and will
possibly give you a chance.
Really not trying to be mean, but if you actually are unpopular
and don't have many cool friends or friends at all, odds are, you
won't get a girlfriend. And just saying from a point of view. The
best thing to do is (but most likely won't be possible) move to
another school and totally change your style, be more active, and
hopefully people will like you there! But since that doesn't
normally happen just like that, just try out some new things and
like girls that can have a chance with you and just be more
outgoing, and if you do get turned down, don't let it ruin you!
Self-confidence is really important, or else people will just see
you as invisible. And, again, not trying to be mean by the first
Aright, first, when walking, walk with your head up facing
everyone and your eyes looking around (metaphorically and
literally), make friends who are girls (it makes other girls
jealous, some at least), speak up in class and make yourself look
and sound smart or witty, put yourself out there, be social, be
confident (if you're confident it make you look friendly [just
don't get cocky] and approachable, dress nicely (match your clother
and don't wear pajamas to school!!!), clean up (cut your hair, so
you can see your eyes, brush your teeth as often as possible, use
lotion!!!, wash your hair regularily, and please don't smell!!
that's the worst), be yourself, don't change yourself to look
cooler or more popular, or when you do find someone, you won't know
who you're supposed to be... And remember, you're not the only 17
year old out there who's single and looking and lonely ... =)
Look, not to be rude, but some of the friendus here are very
demeaning. Not to long ago, I was not a too-popular person, though
I didnt feel lonely like the asker.
One, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Even by the
way you asked(phrased) this question, its quite simple to tell that
you are feeling very sorry for yourself.
Im assuming that your are still in school, if this is the case
then heres some advice. You may not be the popular kid, but in
school there will always be group projects. When put into a group,
start to try to get along with the other kids. ANY of the other
kids. Making one new friend for yourself will get you invited to
hang out with their friends as well.
In order to make new friends and such, you should try to quit
actually so shy. I know its hard, I used to be the shyest person i
knew. Its not easy to stop being shy, so look at yourself and
figure out "Why is it that im shy?," because most shyness comes
from a lack of self-confidence, which in turn comes from not liking
yourself. The way i built up confidence to stop being shy myself
was I realized that it stemmed from my not-too-great body. I was
overweight (not too much, but still). As soon as I decided i wanted
to change,I started working out, running, eating healthier. Since
last year when i started this, I've went from 207 lbs, to the 172
lbs that i am today. Making for-the-better changes about yourself
will automatically result in more confidence.
If you make an effort making more friends will take care of your
shyness, unpopularity, and issues you are having with finding a
girl who will like you.
Best of Luck