Talk to him about it. Ask him why he does it. Offer to help him
buy clothes or to have his own so he quits stealing yours or your
If he is embarrassed and doesn't really want to discuss it, it
is probably a sexual thing that he would prefer to keep private,
and at least he knows that you are willing to discuss it if
If he is nonchalant or professes to enjoy the feeling of the
fabric and such, then it is also a non-issue. He simply likes how
the under-things feel, and it is unlikely to be associated with a
sexual obsession if he discusses it openly in this manner. This is
the easiest way out.
If he embraces the idea, wants to dress entirely and prefers
being and acting like a girl, perhaps it is time to get a
gender-issues professional involved to decide how to best
Whatever you do, don't put distance between yourself and him or
make him feel like he has done something wrong. Wanting to wear
nice feeling fabrics, or wanting to dress entirely, is not
something that any amount of punishment, the silent treatment, or
Bible passages will cure. He will just feel guilty and despondent
in private and learn not to go to you when he encounters other more
important issues like sex or drugs. I learned not to confide in my
parents because of their judgment over this issue and had to
go-it-alone in some difficult young-adult situations as a
In perspective, it is harmless. He just needs to keep in mind
that not everyone is as open minded as you, and thus he should
avoid making choices in this area that lead to difficult
situations. (Such as wearing girls' clothes outside or to school
could get him beat up.) Yes, it's unjust, but stuff happens. If his
father would not understand, you can be his secret agent, covering
for him in a tight spot and offering to "get away" to go shopping.
He will absolutely love you for it.
Here are more comments and shared experiences:
Don't panic and assume you have a budding transvestite or gay
child. Although that's not a bad thing, just a bit of a shock to
ones system. The majority of young children like to dress up as the
It's not unusual for a boy to want to wear moms' or sisters'
"stuff." It's much like the playing house scenario that all kids do
at one time or another. I have been dressing up since I was 6 &
help from my mom one Halloween, after that I did it when ever I
could away from my parents. During my growing up years I would do
it when ever I got the chance. During my first marriage I did it
when ever my wife was gone. I would dress up as sexy as I could
from panties, bra, to wearing make-up. When I got married the 2nd
time my wife had her thoughts, when she asked I told yes I love
dressing up as a woman. She has helped me during our 14 years of
marriage. I am a straight male who just loves dressing up as a
woman. I have my own black silky panties, black stockings, bras,
high heel shoes along with high heel boots, & my own make up
& wigs. So what is wrong with it? My daughter loves to see her
dad dressed up as a woman & even helps me also.
My son also wanted to dress up in girls clothing (and his
sister dressed him up as well). When he reached age 5, I told him
that it was not appropriate for him to wear girls clothing. I was
not angry, and I did not shame him, I told him matter of fact. I
believe that we are responsible as parents to guide our children to
behave the way God intended.
It depends on the child's age. If you have an 8 year old then I
would sit down and talk to them. But if your child is 5 or around
that age then don't worry. My cousin pretends he has a bra. He's
only three and it's unlikely he has a sexual fetish at that age.
It's normal really. I dressed up like a boy when I was little some
times. Its just apart of playing.
Allow him to wear girl's clothing. Maybe even encourage him to.
If girl's can dress like boys, there's no reason why boys can't
dress like girls.
Let him have his fun. My son dresses up with his sisters
frequently. He's 9 now and has been having fun with dressing up
since he was four. No big deal, just kid fun.
I think you need to be very cautious as far as age and what
they like to wear and why! I was allowed to dress up from age 4 or
so and could do so as often as I wanted to. At age 8, I was still
wearing sisters or moms older clothing. Then my Mother died and my
Grandmother came into the scene and when she discovered my hobby
she took me to the store and let me pick out my own clothing and
lingerie. By age 13 I was dressing on a daily basis wearing nylon
panties and a bra with false breasts, a nylon full slip, nylon
stockings with a garter-belt if I wanted instead of pantyhose,
little heels and feminine dresses with make-up and girl cut hair
style. My first sexual experience was while I was wearing very sexy
silky panties, a petticoat and square dance dress...I remember the
material of the petticoat against my nylon covered legs and panties
so sexy that I got an erection and had my first orgasm and have
been using my lingerie for this purpose ever since. Now at 27 I
live as a female and am sexually aroused every minute of my life
and bring 5 to 6 pairs of panties in my purse to work because I
will soil them while at work. I go to the ladies room and satisfy
myself all day long. It is a curse and I cannot stop. So please
consider this when letting little boys dress up. You women do not
understand the addition of silky nylon against us and the sexual
arousal that results from that silky material against our private
Like Lauren, I was "imprinted". My parents had a business that
required them to be away from home, from Friday p.m. Until Mon
about noon. I had a chance to be "sat" with by a neighbor. She very
quickly told me I was going to be her "imprinting" experiment. She
dressed me as a girl as soon as I came in, and I remained so until
it was time to leave. I had several climaxes dressed this way. It
was my introduction. I have no regrets.
I wouldn't worry about it. My son loved to wear his sister's
clothes and wanted me to curl his hair. We had lots of fun. He's 10
now and I could never get him in a dress!
I would let him know that you love him and by all means, let
him enjoy his life! Get information on the subject of Cross
Dressing and study it yourself. Be prepared to help him handle this
other side of his personality with discretion. These may be the
happiest years of his life. He can learn to manage his life to
include everything he loves and expects from it. The "phase" may
pass, but I would caution you that it may not also.
My mom caught me at 15 wearing my sister's pantyhose. She
didn't talk about it but she started buying me boys bikinis
especially ones that looked like panties. She also started putting
my sister's panties in with my bikinis after laundering.
Don't worry about it. My son has enjoyed dressing up with his
sisters since he was 4. He's 10 now and he loves wearing dresses.
He often wears dresses around the house and will sometimes go out
to dinner or a movie or other activities in a dress. I have no
problem with it; he can wear want he chooses. I have no idea if he
gets any kind of sexual pleasure out of wearing girl's clothes and
quite frankly, I don't care; that's his business not mine. If he
ever wants to talk to me about it then my door is wide open. All 3
of my kids know that they can talk to me about anything at anytime.
My son is still a boy and loves to play soccer and football with
his friends. Some of his friends come over and play dress up with
him and we have two or three 'cross-dressed' little boys running
around the house and yard. It's no big deal, they're just having
fun. I really don't understand this trip about 'boys don't wear
dresses'. I say let boys wear what ever they want. My son is happy
and healthy and that's what I care about most.
Most boys like to wear panties, especially the girly silky
kind. It's normal and lots of teen boys and even grown up men are
into it and wish more girls/women were, and were more accepting.
It's normal. Let it continue if the male wants. You don't see
people freaking out if a girl wears a guy's shirt or boxers, so let
boys wear panties and bras and so on if they want. It's fine and
harmless. It's just clothes.
I've always had a fascination with soft and silky feminine
things. While in my teens, I thought I was the only guy in the
world like this and I felt guilt. I told my wife before we married
and she accepted it. Now I sleep in pretty nighties, and I wear
panties under my regular clothes when I'm at home. I do most of the
housework to 'earn' the right to wear pretty things. I guess I am a
sissy maid. We are a very happy and long-married couple.
The exact same thing you'd do if your daughter likes to wear
My son at the age of seven told me that he wanted to wear girls
clothes like his sister's, Initially I sat him down and talked
about it with him, firstly on his own, and then with his sisters
present, each time we talked about the situation, he convinced me
that this was what he truly wanted, so we set a date when he could
make the change from wearing boys clothing to dressing as a girl,
we decided to give it two weeks, firstly to see if he changed his
mind and secondly to give me a chance to get some clothes for him
to wear, once to two weeks had passed we again sat down and talked,
and again he convinced us that this was what he wanted, so the
following day we set to and dressed him in tights and a dress, this
was three years ago, even today he still insists on being like a
girl, I guess what I am trying to say is that for some boys this is
natural, so I feel that by denying them the opportunity to
experiment, then you are only building up more problems for them in
There is absolutely nothing wrong with allowing a boy to
experience and enjoy girls clothing. It will give him a better
understanding of the opposite sex, what its like to dress like one
and a better appreciation of what a girl goes through in order to
look pretty. That appreciation will follow them into adult life,
helping them to better relate to their female partner in life. It
has for me and at over 50, I can honestly say my experience as a
child, wearing girls' clothes was important and beneficial to
I firmly believe that boys (of whatever age) who have expressed
a desire to dress in girl's clothing, not only be allowed to do so,
but be encouraged by parents and other family members. For very
young children it really doesn't matter what is worn, but children
over seven (the traditional age of reason) should be given a
sympathetic hearing. Boys about twelve or older require particular
understanding in finding self-expression through cross-dressing,
rather than have them live in a constant state of adolescent
frustration. The teen years are difficult under any circumstances.
Parents must agree that such desires are both respectable and
normal for their child. Single mothers with a son as an only child
have a special responsibility.
Preteens might be allowed to wear moms or sisters clothing, but
teens should be allowed their own set of feminine attire. A boy's
appearance as a girl should reflect both his age and body type. A
shopping spree at the mall might collect the following items:
Several dresses, short skirts, blouses and knee and ankle socks.
For underwear, a selection of panties, both frilly and sheer, and a
half slip. In each instance the final selection is his. Customers
and sales persons will probably catch on, but so be it. A good rule
of thumb for parents or guardians on this matter is, explain, when
necessary, but never apologize.
At home the new "daughter" might be encouraged to "dress up" but
never required to do so. Initiative must come from the boy, who is
allowed to "come along" at his own pace. Dressing as a girl should
never be punitive or used as a reward. It is a privilege, extended
out of love and understanding. Persons coming into the home should
witness his new transformation, and most will accept it. Word will
soon get around; it cannot be hidden from the wider world. But
then, why should it be?
When the time comes for his first public appearances dressed as
a girl, the mother should assist him in taking his first "baby
steps". Drives around town and drive-through lines at fast food
places could be followed by short walks in parks or unfamiliar
neighborhoods. Soon he will be accustomed to going out in public in
short skirts or dresses and bare legs and will welcome such
excursions. In so doing he will have demonstrated, with the help of
his family, courage and self-confidence, and acquired a new spirit
of self-esteem and self-image. What greater gift could parents give
to their sons once they realize that for many boys dressing as
girls fulfils a deep-seated psychological need?
I have been a cross dresser for 30 years, I am now 45,let your
sons dress up any way they would like it is only clothes, I told my
mom when I was 15 that I wanted to wear her clothes and the clothes
of my 3 sisters, she sit me down with my sisters and told me that
it was OK with her and my sisters loved it, I am younger then my
sisters , I am not married but would love to find a good woman who
would let me dress up in her sexy clothes and do the house work for
her, this is what I did for my mom and sisters and miss it a
It is not a problem. If girl can wearing what they are like. My
son also wearing panties .He has 20panties.I also help him to
choose the panties. Actually boys must wearing panties, bra and
skirts also. My son wearing only panties. I tell him if he likes he
can wear the bras, skirts etc. If he likes, I'll be the happiest
mother in this world. I love my son very much.
Loads of guys dress up for amusement purposes. It might all
just have been blown out of proportion. Talk to him. It's the only
I'm 21, and I've been dressing as a girl since I was about ten
or eleven. I just recently started hormones to effectively change
my body so I can live as what my mind says I am. It's not a fetish;
I don't get off on it. I dress to pass as a woman in society as do
most transsexuals. As far as just cross dressing goes from the
majority I've met most do it to express there female side rather
than to derive sexual pleasure from it.
My mom caught me wearing my sister's clothes one day and she
talked to me about it but that was it after that it was out of
sight out of mind. I had to learn what I was on my own it made it
very hard dealing with it, no one to talk to. Just recently my mom
and I started to talk about it again because I started living
almost exclusively as a woman. It took some time and a little work
to get her to understand that it wasn't her fault nor was it mine
or anyone else's, it was just one of natures little mistakes.
Actually Opera just recently had a whole show on it and I showed it
to my mom that's what made her realize. I only offer my story as
insight into what could happen and possibly what not to do. Puberty
is usually the time when this realization hits hardest if at all.
Just be open with your child if he does feel that he should have
been a girl forcing him away from it will only cause problems later
Oh and another small piece of information for anyone thinking
cross-dressing or transsexualism is in some way violating some law
of God. The only mention in the bible of cross-dressing is a
singular passage that says loosely quoted "A man shall not don the
garb of a woman, nor should a woman wear a male's apparel." This
being said it's actually a mistranslation from when the bible was
transferred to English it really says "A man shall not wear the
garb of a woman to enter a woman's tent, (fear of rape) and a woman
shall not wear a man's garb to enter a temple. (Since women of the
day where not aloud in the temples.) If anyone has any questions I
am open to them, and sorry for the length and choppiness of this
post I just got out of work.
Well stop buying him girls clothing and buy him boy stuff. Talk
to him about it and if he is old enough tell him it's not straight.
Show him what boys like and wear.
My son began "experimenting" with dressing in my underwear when
he was around six or seven. Rather than call attention to it
(thinking it would either shame him or make the desire stronger) I
said nothing. Although I would notice regular "rearranging" of my
lingerie drawer, I kept quiet. My husband was less than thrilled at
the idea of Chris wearing my bras and panties, but I insisted that
we simply let the "stage" pass, undetected. When he was about ten,
I went into his bedroom to check on him and turn out his light. He
was sound asleep when I went in. I noticed the lacy shoulder strap
of one of my bras, peeking out from his covers. Peeling back the
bedclothes, I discovered he was dressed in matching thong panties
and bra. He woke up and realized that he was "caught" wearing his
mother's underwear. He began to cry and explain that he was sorry
and would never do it again. I surprise him (and myself) when I sat
down on his bed, held him in my arms and told him that it was
perfectly fine to wear girl's clothes, at least as far as I was
concerned. He was so relieved; he hugged me and asked if he could
have his own bras and panties. I agreed. To make a long story
short, he is now almost twenty years old and regularly dresses
completely as a woman. He keeps himself slim, shaved and
appropriately dressed, although he is not gay. He considers his
dressing as a girl, as a fun hobby. I have no reason to think that
I made the wrong decision with him. He is a well-adjusted,
beautiful son who I am proud to call my own. If I had tried to
interfere with him feminine curiosity, I believe that I would have
crushed an essential part of his spirit.
I am a traditional heterosexual person and the mother of a son
who has tried on women's panties. This is the reason I looked up
this topic and found this question. I would like my son to grow up
to be a well-adjusted heterosexual man. I would like to know
if some of the responses might be from bisexual or gay men or
transvestites or cross-gender men. If so, please specify that. I
want to encourage my son to go down the straight and narrow path.
It seems bizarre to encourage this behavior. I would only encourage
it if I knew it was a phase and that discouraging it would somehow
make it worse. If you are honest enough in letting it be known that
this type of behavior is 'OK' then please be honest enough to let
me/us/the readers know from what perspective you are speaking.
You should let him dress in whatever he wants at that age. To
deny him will confuse him. He won't understand the difference of
why he can dress like a cowboy, fireman, or clown, but not as a
girl. Don't curtail his imagination, he will decide as he gets
older if dressing like a girl is something he wants to do or
(probably) not. When I was a little older, 11, one Thanksgiving
evening, my mother and aunt decided it would be fun to dress up my
cousin (a year younger) and me in dresses, make up, and wigs. We
had dessert all dressed up nice and pretty. We got into little
nighties that night and it was fun for us. A few weeks later I
asked my mom if she would dress me up for Christmas and she did.
The real surprise was just before New Years, she called me to her
bedroom and pulled out a beautiful girl's party dress in pink with
matching satin panties and bra, white tights, and shiny pink shoes.
That was the most fun New Years I had experienced. She did older
looking makeup, polished my nails, gave me some jewelry, and let me
wear her best wig. We cooked dinner together and afterwards baked
holiday cookies. I stayed in girls clothes that whole weekend. Even
today at 27, my mom will come visit me by herself and I dress up
nicely for her visit. We have gone clothes shopping together, went
to a Broadway show (I wore a formal gown), went to a bridal expo,
and even once went to a very upscale restaurant and had drinks at
the cocktail lounge afterwards with me in my first sexy little
black dress. I know that I would never have been as close to my mom
if she never dressed me up, so I give thanks to that. Don't
discourage your son, let him decide for himself soon enough.
I caught my son, 12, dressed in girl's clothes, underwear and
all, and I made a scene. He was crushed. Later I sat down and tried
to figure out why I blew up. Just surprised? And I deeply regret
what I did to him. Yes, single mother and I pushed him away. Since
that time I have tried to mend my mistake, but have not made much
headway. We talk about it a little, but he will not accept my
offers of approving participation. We come close, but he is afraid
of me. Now what! I forced him away. If I make him dress, can I
bring him back? I would love to dress him and hold him and love
him, tell him how sorry I am. Should I invite him to dress? Should
I force him?
You son is probably embarrassed at you catching him dressed up.
You shouldn't force it on him, but rather do something nice that he
would be comfortable with. Maybe you could go buy him a complete
girl's outfit? Then wrap it up nicely and put in his bedroom with a
note that says that he can use the present whenever he wants. Then
you might suggest a special event or day that if he feels like
wearing it he could. Also try to include him in some of your own
feminine rituals. My mom would always ask me if I wanted to help
her do her nails. If I was into it, she would let me dress up and
help her. You could also take out old pictures of when you were the
same age and point out the similarities, the maybe suggest that you
both try to make him look like a twin image of you when you
younger. You will get him to relax and respond femininely without
him feeling pressured. I think you will eventually have a darling
"girl" to spend precious moments with.
When I was little, my mom and sister dressed me up like a girl
for Halloween. We all thought that it was fun. I liked it so much
that dressing up became a very frequent activity for my sister and
I and I often dressed as a girl more than I did like a boy. It just
felt so nice to me. The feeling seem to come from within. I still
did all of the stuff little boys did, but had this second "thing"
that I liked. I thought that I was the only boy like this.
Sometimes, I was discouraged from dressing, and I got frustrated.
Other times, I was mildly encouraged to dress up and I felt really
happy. I continued to dress openly throughout my childhood, but I
was also taught to apply the proper discretion, since this is a
sensitive subject to many. I shared many happy moments as an
"adopted" sister and daughter, with my sister and mom; along with
the normal brother and son moments. I developed into a normal
heterosexual man, but I still love to cross-dress. That Halloween
didn't cause it; it just gave me the opportunity to discover
myself. My advice is to support your sons if they show these
inclinations and allow them to dress and discover themselves.
You'll get used to it and I think that you will just discover that
you love them even more than you thought.
First do try to understand the child. Do not get mad and out of
control, that can turn your son against you for life. I am 68 y/o
male (not gay and never have had a gay experience) and have been
wearing female clothing since I started with panties when I was
5-6. My mother and an aunt started purchasing me panties at 5-6,
and dressing me a girl. I even wore rayon, nylon, silk or satin
panties to school all through my school years, sometimes during
13-17 I would wear a bra under my male clothing. I love wearing
satins and silks. I am dressed wearing a blue satin dressing gown,
pink satin lace bra, pink satin panties, Hanes sheer pantyhose and
black hush puppies (flats). I am married; we have two boys and one
girl (all grown) who were raised seeing their father dressed in
female attire. When the boys were 12-13, we purchased them two
pairs of panties so that they could try if they liked, neither
continued wearing female clothing.
I recently came out of the closet as a Transvestite. This fact
I have kept hidden away for many years. I started dressing at a
very young age and was 3 times before I turned 15. My Mom new I
would dress after that even though I would lie and say I wasn't
dressing. Keeping it hidden for all years causes me to have anxiety
and stress, which I am in therapy for know, I truly believe that if
I would have had some kind of support I would be a different person
today. I am 34 now and am starting my path into the lifestyle I
have always wanted to lead. I may loose family and friends but if
they would just try to understand even a little, it would be allot
My son began wearing my lingerie when (s)he was 5 or 6 and I
was not at all concerned. I always wanted a girl so (s)he became my
"part-time" daughter. By the time (s)he was 10 (s)he was dressing
completely as a girl at home. Seeing it was just the two of us
there was no one to put their two cents in. I had bought her a
fairly complete wardrobe for a girl her age and (s)he was quite
adept at looking the part. I decide (s)he was ready for a bra when
(s)he was 11 and low heels at 12. Makeup was a breeze - (s)he was a
fast learner, and I guess I was a good teacher. Soon though, (s)he
was itching to get out and be seen but I was totally against that,
though I knew deep down that it was inevitable. Until (s)he was 16
(s)he was content to hang out at home with me and polish her
feminine skills. We were more like roommates, living as we did.
(S)he was an excellent student and I had a lucrative legal
practice, so we were always secure. I guess seeing her 75% of the
time as a girl I began thinking of "him" as "her". When (s)he was
17 though, the urge to get out became more than (s)he could handle
and one cloudy afternoon in the winter (s)he left our apartment
building through the service entrance as was soon just another face
in the crowd on New York's Upper West Side. I was at work so (s)he
had a couple of hours of walking-around time to be herself and
still speaks of it as one of the most exciting things in her life.
Since that day going out has become commonplace and so far (s)he's
had no problems. I'm still a bit edgy but reconciled to the fact
that (s)he is her own person. It's easy to say I may have been
misguided in encouraging her to assume a female persona but the
research I'd done told me that it would be virtually impossible to
dissuade her from her feminine leanings and might be even quite
detrimental. Sure, I was selfish in rationalizing it by saying I'd
always wanted a daughter, which I really did, and being widowed and
unable to have any more children, but you would be hard pressed to
find a more happy and content human being, than is my "daughter"
today. (S)he's 27 and in a doctoral program and has a bright future
awaiting her, as both a man and a woman.
It's easy to understand when a boy wants to dress up as a girl.
First of all look at all the different things a girl can wear. One
day she can wear slacks and the next day a pretty dress or skirt
outfit. She can wear "men's" shirts and pants and then put on a
frilly nightie when she gets home. Not to mention the great fabrics
in women's clothes as compared to men's. Silk, satin, lace and
ruffles feels nicer than coarse wool and cottons. When a child is
growing up and mom comforts them next to her body they experience
the contact to the types of clothes that mom's wear and it leaves a
lasting impression on them. Now take a look at our whole society.
You see and hear advertising towards men that always places them as
the aggressive, competitive without much room to be different.
However women are projected as caring, attractive people who can do
anything they chose. A women comes home after a hard day of work
and slips into a bubble bath and silky nightclothes and a man goes
to play sports, socializes, and needs to let everyone know how
masculine he is before his day is complete. It doesn't seem fair to
some boys, does it? I was around 11 yrs old when I first asked my
mother why I had to wear plain cotton pajamas while she wore these
great looking and feeling nighties and pj's. I started trying some
of things on when she wasn't at home. One time when we were at a
department store, she was shoe shopping and I wandered into the
next dept and was mesmerized by all the lingerie. She found me
there looking through all delicate and wonderful items. She pulled
me by the hand back to where she was shopping and I just sat there
thinking how great it would be to wear things like I just saw. When
she was done, she took me upstairs to the girls' dept and said I
could pick out on girls pj's or nightgown and she would buy it for
me. I still remember that little yellow nylon nightgown with the
most adorable matching panties. My mom got me more things to wear
and then she never ever had to tell me more than once to wash up
and change for bed, I did it by myself most times! I grew up to be
a cross-dresser and although some times were tough and lonely, I
wouldn't change it for the world. High school was the hardest time
because everyone at that age is trying to establish a personality
of their own and I kept mostly to myself. I would take joy knowing
that I could go home and enjoy being feminine. It was after my 10th
grade year that most of the kids on my block starting going to
sleep away camps and I didn't want to go because I knew what I'd be
giving up. That summer my mom bought me dresses, girl's shorts and
tops, shoes and sandals, panties and bras, and cosmetics that I
could wear all day. It was the best summer I ever had. Through my
adult life I have met so many wonderful women who understand the
need to be feminine and most to encourage me that I continue.
I am a straight married man and have worn bras and panties
since my early teens. My wife is okay with it as long as my bra is
not totally visible through my shirt. I don't wear any other
women's clothes but I do have pierced ears and wear earrings all
the time. I think my interest in lingerie began when my mother put
my sister's hand me down panties and camies in my drawers when I
was 9 or 10. That's what I was given so that's what I wore. I
started wearing bras when I got my nipples pierced to cushion them
and help them heal. At first my wife freaked but after a while she
accepted it. She doesn't like me to wear anything with lace or
flowers. Generally I wear a slightly padded underwire size 36A or a
soft cup 36 AA. Several people have noticed mostly women and they
will ask " are you wearing a bra ?" and I just say yes and smile.
Recently I have become interested in enhancing my size and have
been taking herbal enhancement pills which have had an effect over
the past 2 months. I recently went to the doctors for my annual
physical and the nurse practitioner was very interested in the
underwear. She asked if it was comfortable and how long I had been
wearing lingerie. She asked me about any drugs and supplements I
was taking and I told her just multivitamins and the breast pills.
Then she asked if I wanted breasts. I said yes. After she was done
she left the room and came back with some samples of birth control
pills and gave them to me. She explained that they would help my
breasts grow. She gave me a three month supply and made another
appointment for me in three months to follow up on some blood
tests. I took the pills and my breasts didn't get a lot bigger but
they were definitely more female looking. My wife noticed and began
to pay a lot more attention to my breasts when we were intimate. I
returned for my follow up appointment which I thought was just
going to be a consultation about the tests but was again given a
complete going over with help from the nurse and receptionist while
I was naked. I dressed and began to leave and pay my co-pay and I
was about to leave when the nurse stopped me in the waiting room
and said in front of everyone, "You forgot your birth control
prescription" and handed it to me. Boy did I get some strange looks
from the other patients. I love my breasts and am now a full well
shaped A cup.
I am a 12 year old boy and I have been cross-dressing ever
since I was 5 years old. At 5 I wore my best friend's sister's
dress and painted my nails and used lipstick. Now I wear my mom's
panties bras and thongs and every other girly thing I can find. The
reason I do it is because I find it fun. The thing is no one in my
family knows. I have a 5 year old sister, 9 year old brother and a
mother and a father. And I don't want to tell them about but there
is this really hot babysitter who has never told anything I told
her and I am wondering if I should let her know and see if secretly
she will let me go to her place(just the house away) and c if she
can dress me up and maybe take me shopping for some girl things and
keep it secret and put make up on me and in the future when I am on
my own I plan to grow breasts. So what, should I do it?
I think you should go for it. I am in my teens still and I
would love to have some one dress me and take me out shopping for
cloths. I dress at home fully as a girl and I am 12 I wear thongs g
strings garter belts micro minis mini skirts dresses mini dresses
blouses bras size 34b and only 18 year old sister knows I have gone
to school for three years as a girl.
I think you should go for it to.
I am 26 years old and I have been wearing panties every since I
was about 7 years old. I have two older sisters and growing up I
had lots of panties to choose from. I am built well too. I am
5'11'', 145lbs. And have an athletic build. I have been thinking
for some time of growing breasts but I don't know what my wife
would say. She knows that I wear panties and she loves it! I have
about 150 pairs of my own. We also share. I love wearing panties
and I won't stop wearing them for anyone and I don't see the harm
in it. I say do it because you only live life once and you should
be able to do what makes you happy, go for it!
Treat him like the daughter he wants to be! I have been
dressing up since childhood and really regret not coming out to my
sister sooner than I did...Oh the times we could have had as
sisters...I still remember returning from boarding school in the
80's to find a beautiful feminine frilly blouse, and skirt suit
hanging on the back of my door...needless to say it didn't take me
long to try them on!
As a psychologist, maybe I can shed some light on this issue.
There are basically two categories of boys who enjoy cross
dressing. One group, by far the largest, likes to dress up for fun
and excitement, usually beginning around age five plus. When they
hit puberty, women's clothing often becomes a fetish and may have
an erotic component. Some stop, others may dress up fully or partly
their entire lives. They are nearly always heterosexual and
generally married as adults.
The second group, known as transsexuals, believe they are
actually a member the other sex trapped in the wrong body. Their
"gender identity" is female if a boy and male if a girl; yes there
are some girls who have a male identity, though they are fewer in
number than males. These individuals are diagnosed as having a
"Gender Identity Disorder," and are quite different from
cross-dressers. They dress as the opposite gender because it feels
natural and they are more comfortable that way. Many of them decide
to take hormones and have their body modified (sometimes breast
implants) so they appear truly feminine. Frequently, they wish to
have surgery to become physically the opposite sex, the procedure
being called SRS or Sexual Reassignment Surgery. If a young boy or
girl is a true transsexual (a condition with is life long and a
determination which needs to be made by a psychiatrist) it is
sometimes recommended to begin the "transition" period before
We are not certain exactly what causes cross-dressing and
transsexualism, but recent research suggests that gender "identity"
is actually hard-wired in the brain (as is sexual orientation)
during the development of the fetus due to a hormonal imbalance. On
the other hand, cross-dressing may be stimulated by the child's
family environment. Boys who are the eldest boy in the family, for
example, are 4 times more likely to cross-dress than those who are
not. Intense relationships with the mother and distant
relationships with the father may also play a role.
I am a teen and I wear panties. Nothing sexual to it really,
their just comfy and I like them more then normal briefs or boxers.
Don't listen to the homophobes and right-wing Christians "You're
wrong because my god says it's wrong" Try talking to your son, if
he's like me and does it just for a little fun or comfort, then
don't worry. If he's gay threes nothing you can really do about it
either, just remember he's still your son and you should be
supportive on his life decisions.
As a heterosexual mother of 5 I would be happy for them in
whatever way they want to express themselves that is only being
different, which doesn't harm anything. Does it matter how your
sister, mother or friend is a girl today? All that matters is you
are showing love towards each other and that they are happy who
they are. I would prefer to teach my children respect for things
that are only different in race, gender, individual expression,
identity, etc. If we could all do this we would have a lot more
It's only clothes. Clothes haven't had a nasty history of
hurting any people, unless the outfit is a rather silly fashion
statement. When was the last time you ever heard of a person
getting killed by a dress, or wounded by a bra, slashed by a pair
of panties, hit over the head with a slip, etc.? The boy is just
exploring a different world and maybe showing healthy childhood
curiosity. Everybody, virtually, has most likely at one time or
another asked one of the big questions in life, "What If I Was Born
The Opposite Gender?". Basically all children try cross-dressing at
one time or another. Far too many parents over-react and panic to
see their son dressed as a girl. This over-reaction only leads to a
negative being applied to the act of their son dressing as a girl.
This negativism can lead into a life of secreted closeted
cross-dressing that is filled with guilt, depression, isolation,
loneliness, despair, drug abuse, alcoholism and a ton of other
negative issues. Too much of this heaped on negative feelings can
lead that child into either attempted suicide or committing the
actual act of suicide. How may parents have come home to find their
son cross-dressed as a girl and dead at his own hands? I think the
statistics would be rather shocking if they were ever to truly come
out. Is all of this worth it because a boy dresses as a girl? Is it
worth screwing up a potential good life filled with good things,
good rewards and a rich full filled one life here on old Mother
Earth simply because a boy dresses as a girl? The best thing a
parent can do if their son dresses like a girl is neither to
encourage it nor discourage it. Just let it take its own natural
course. Buying him his own girl's clothes is not an encouragement,
rather, it's simply a statement to your son, "I'd rather you wear
your own girl clothes than your sisters or mine. Clothes are a
personal item and we don't wear other people's clothes without
their permission." If it continues then as parents first feel out
your son in a non-threatening environment on his dressing as a
girl. Then as a family seek professional counseling. That boy may
be one of the many variations of transgenderism. Transgenderism in
all of its forms is generally inborn rather that environmental. The
best that can be done for that boy is to prepare him to live a
positive life full of positive values and issues as a transgender
person and how to deal with a partial hostile society. Then, again,
it just might be a phase he's going through.
There is nothing wrong with a boy wearing girls clothing. My
daughter (13) caught my son (9) wearing one of her sundresses and a
pair of her underwear. She was furious, and I calmed her down and
told her that this is how young men explore their sexuality. She
said she didn't want him wearing her stuff anymore, so we all went
out shopping and helped him pick out a few dresses and panties that
he can wear. It all worked out!
You shouldn't discourage your son's behavior -- allow him to be
who he wants to be -- and let him determine for himself what makes
him happy-- he is hurting absolutely no-one.
For the previous poster that wants his son to walk the "straight
and narrow" path -- it sounds as though you are concerned more with
your own needs (discomfort with the expression) than your son's.
Obviously this is a very difficult issue for most people to grasp
as society discourages what it sees as abnormal. And many live to
oppress anything in people they personally can't comprehend --
which is sad. My suspicion is, this behavior, practice, expression
is much more common than anyone admits -- and the professionals
I've talked to agree that it is a worthy suspicion.
And again for the "straight and narrow" poster -- I am a 36 year
old male -- as an only child I dressed on and off in secret from
the time I was 4. I was caught twice and was threatened to correct
my behavior. I had much shame. I was depressed in my teens. I went
to college, used alcohol and marijuana to shut myself off from the
reality of me having a predominately feminine nature. I got married
and continued to push back this true expression. Became a
full-blown alcoholic. Wife left me due to alcohol. I received
counseling and came clean for the first time in my life with the
counselor -- the counselor understood it was a very big deal for me
to tell someone. I told my ex-wife the truth about the source of
all my underlying sadness. I opened by saying with a nervous grin
"Remember how when I'd buy you jewelry or clothing as gifts you
were always so amazed by my perfect choices?" she was not so
shocked by my admission but more angry that I had never shared my
true self with her. We are in the midst of reconciling and I am a
happier, well adjusted person than I've ever been in my life. It
took such a long time. I don't necessarily think I'll be going out
in a dress anytime soon or getting sex reassignment surgery, but
whatever happens, I will be an expression of my true self;
multidimensional and human.
I feel bad for all the people that commit suicide because they
feel so alone and can't find the peace myself and others have
found. Oh it happens, you just don't hear about it; being a
feminine male should remain a deep, deep, dark secret etc., etc.,
The very narrow-minded general public really, really need to
have it drilled into them that gender and sexuality are two
completely separate things. Maybe 100 years from now they will
embrace that both gender and sexuality (quite beautifully) possess
a wide-ranging kaleidoscope of colors.
I'm 13 and like cross-dressing I go in the mall to try on girls
clothes when I'm at home I dress in my mom and sisters' clothes and
I wear their thongs and nail polish but I don't have wigs. My mom
doesn't know. Should I tell her and this Halloween I'm dressing as
a princess. Do you know which one should I be and should I wear
My son has been dressing in girls clothing since he was 5. He
was always very feminine in the way he acted and played with other
children, preferring to play with the other girls in the
neighborhood exclusively when he could. At first it was just trying
on my nightgown and heels and some lipstick. And would always
insist on being a fairy princess or some girl TV star for
Halloween. By the time she was 7 she was getting tired of wearing
clothes that were too large and looked silly on a 7 year old. So
one day while we were shopping she asked of she could have his own
nightgown. I asked if her if she wanted anything else and suddenly
she was gushing a wish list of things and pulling me into the girls
section of the Robinson's May and pointing out all the different
outfits he wanted to buy immediately. We settled for a dress a
couple of skirts, some tops, shoes, underwear and of course a
couple of nightgowns. Since then he hasn't worn any boy's underwear
for any reason and is always my daughter from the moment she steps
into the house and more than half the time when we go out. She is
10 now and a more wonderful daughter a mother couldn't ask for.
Love to talk to you about your new daughter if you wish Tina
Just communicate. Keep the lines of communication open. Love
your kid. Whatever he is, he is. I think it's a phase that will
pass. Girls get SO many options of clothing, in real life and for
pretend/fantasy. Some boys probably get jealous. I don't know if
it's inside up or what. I mean, I like wearing dresses, but I don't
know if that's because I'm a girl or because I was told to wear
dresses as a kid. Who knows. Maybe he just likes wearing dresses or
girl's shoes. There's nothing wrong with it, but you have to figure
out why he does and figure out how to deal with it. I mean, if he
wore a dress to school, yeah he'd be happy to be in a dress but
will he be happy when everyone makes fun of him? Or if he gets beat
I can't wait to be a mom. And I'm going to love my kids no
matter what. I think just love him, care for him, listen to him,
and guide him. If he's still doing it a few years from now, maybe
talk to a psychologist.
Wow a lot to go over just to answer if a boy should be allowed
to wear girls clothing. As many of the men out there I too was
allowed to wear girls clothing, lingerie, nightgowns or whatever
and whenever I wanted to including makeup. I dressed everyday from
8 or and became more and more entranced in the feminine ways.
Women's fabrics and fit of the clothing are for women not for men.
A garter belt will fall down around my hips and why do I need a
bra. YOU women are fooling yourselves if you think it is OK for
your little boys to wear girls things. Think about the tactile
sensations of silky nylon against his little penis. You know, when
your wearing panties and a slip and you feel the slippery
sensations against your bottom when sitting down or whatever. He is
feeling that against his penis and do not think he is not
completely aroused. Arousal is addicting especially for the young
like me. I am now addicted and I cannot stop. The more I dress and
more I want to. It feels different for me to shave my legs and
slide on stockings and put on a bra and slip and high heels with
makeup and dress. Every movement is erotic.
Hi, I was a first grandson and nephew to 3 young aunts. One
liked to scare me all the time. Another liked to parade in front of
me in her tight skimpy outfits and lingerie. Teasing me about her
"boobies" and that tight booty. And the last would dress me up in
pantyhose. Every time I spent the night at Grandma's house, when
all the lights were out, she put me in pantyhose. I can not stop
thinking about how sexy they felt on my skin. She shaved my legs,
and made the sensation even more arousing. I then associated sexy
pantyhose with a feeling down there, and began masturbating. I am
now 31 years old. I cannot explain my attraction to nylons and
shaved legs. I secretly shave my legs every morning, and put on a
favorite pair of nylon stockings and garter. They made me want to
be a girl. I hate them for that, and yet, they also gave me
something I would have never experienced otherwise.
A god could care less what we wear and don't wear, humans are
the ones that care what we wear. Society has deemed it bad for a
male to wear female clothing, though at the same time most women
that wear lots of boy clothing get judged as well they are called
tom boys and butch and whatnot. Really its just fabric so who cares
, there are unisex clothing out there but if you wear that your not
judged. Now as for guys wanting to wear skirts, look back in
history to the time of the kilts where men wore "skirts", "kilts"
really are the same thing for the most part a strip of cloth that
covers your waist. I say more women and men should wear whatever,
women's clothing is more attractive, and can be more comfortable
and men's clothing can be the same its all based loosely on style
and fashion. I have noticed that most older guys that like to wear
women's clothing tend to not wear what's in style. I really think
people just need to grow up and figure out that if we stopped
worrying about what someone is wearing and stuff like who is in
charge of our country and whatnot and stop making war with one
another then maybe life would be much better for all of us.
The best thing you can do for a young cross-dresser is to get
him some clothes of his own. I wore my sister's clothes. Girls have
a special thing about clothes and it violates there rights when you
use their things without permission. Thrift shops are a great
source of inexpensive items. Panties should be new and don't have
to be expensive. There is an age range when most boys can easily
pass as girls when appointed properly. Help him take advantage of
this age, hair, nails, earrings etc. Take lots of pictures. He will
love you for it and the pictures will allow him to remember those
wonderful years as a girl.
When will parents learn that our job in raising our children is
to shelter and nourish them, keep them from harm and
unconditionally love them and let them find their own paths?
I'm not talking about raising spoiled, wilful, self-centered
princesses or anarchists - I'm talking about teaching them how to
make appropriate decisions for themselves - letting them know that
they have freedom of choice - and that the world has "rules", and
that all actions have reactions and consequences.
Teach them that avoiding pain isn't worth losing out on the
opportunities that we miss when we let fear of consequences keep us
from experiencing all there is to experience in life. And encourage
them to stand up and speak up for what they believe in - even if
they are the only ones who believe that way - and to face their
fears rather than run from them - there's almost always a valuable
lesson or a triumph on the other side. And there's nothing as
empowering as building our "courage" muscles. And let them know
that the way we truly grow is to stretch outside of our comfort
And let them know that no one went down in history for playing
it safe, avoiding confrontation or not speaking up when they had
something to say that could make a difference.
Why not teach them to believe in themselves rather than
believing that we have all of their friendus and raising them to be
followers? Why do we need to call the shots in their lives anyway?
And why do we need to control them - just because we're their
I believe in positive reinforcement. Sometimes it seems that the
more a parent insists that their child should be a certain way, the
more likely it is that the child will rebel and do the opposite.
Yet we persist in believing that we can determine their
Unfortunately, parents do determine the futures of their
children - while we can't change their sexual preferences or
personalities, we can teach them to be fearful and subservient and
to question their own judgment. Or we can ignore them and teach
them to be insecure and feel unloved. Or we can reinforce their
unacceptable behavior (like violence, sadism, etc.) By letting them
get away with destructive behavior and by not being willing to take
a stand for THEM finding themselves (violence & drugs distract
from that process) - I hope you get the picture - I'm not talking
about parental passiveness or permissiveness or indifference. And
I'm not talking about saying one thing & doing another -
integrity is a vital part of this equation. A parent who has no
clue who they themselves are cannot teach their children how to
We can teach them that how they look, what they wear, what they
drive, where they live, what they do for a living and how much
money and "stuff" they have IS "Who" they are, or we can show them
how "Who" they are is their qualities (and how their qualities can
shape their lives & the lives of others)- and who they are is
far more powerful and permanent than all of the external trappings
and judgments that some people falsely attribute to being
indicative of one's value.
My younger brother (now age 54) was taught by my macho father to
be ashamed of his desire to dress like a woman. So he tried to
deny, hide, change and fool himself -and everyone else. My brother
raised his son to be a man's man - a wrestler who has no tolerance
for gender issues - particularly where his father is concerned.
Even his diminutive daughter was a wrestler for awhile.
And my brother lived a life of shame and secrets and ultimately
isolated himself (even during his marriage), alienated his wife -
and after 24 years of marriage, she just divorced him a few months
ago. Not too long ago, his huge house was filled with life &
laughter - now he lives there all alone.
Had he been allowed to explore in life, find himself and "be"
himself, I doubt that he would be divorced and estranged from his
children - because he would have known who he really was & he
would have told his wife up front who he really was & taught
his kids acceptance & tolerance. He would have designed his
life around whom he is - not who he wanted or needed people to
think he is.
My point is that we can't CHANGE who our children ARE - there is
a REASON why some boys can't stand girly things & others want
to wear them + why 2 kids born to the same parents - and treated
the same way - can react differently & end up with such
So if your son wants to dress up like a girl, maybe all there is
to do is to love him unconditionally and let him "be" -
I don't think there is anything wrong at all with boys wearing
girls' clothes. It makes for a happier child. I myself have worn
girl's clothes all my life. I don't want to be a girl, but girl's
clothes are so much more comfortable and pretty.
I think one has to take a different perspective on this
situation. So consider this, would you force a boy to wear girls
clothes if he detested the very thought of it?? No, so why force a
boy to wear boy's clothes if the boy in question hates the thought
of it. Again, would you force a girl to dress as a boy?? Probably
It is ONLY society that has dictated that boys should be boys,
oh how totally wrong it is. Boys are human beings, and thus should
be treated as such. Not objects of stereo-typical conditioning by
members of an ageing and mostly corrupt society.
Let your son have fun. He will enjoy the sexy silky feel of
panties and slips against his private parts and will totally get
aroused so let him have a good time.
I believe that ADULTS should do whatever makes them feel happy,
as long as they are not hurting anyone else. Kids are a different
story! I know a lot of adults who regret having done stupid things
when they were younger: drinking, having sex, smoking pot,
stealing. Need I say more? Children and young adults do not know
what they want out of life, they do not know what they will become,
and therefore can not say what sort of things they will regret
having done in their younger days. If we let our kids do whatever
makes them happy, then they might be pregnant at 14, catch AIDS,
become addicts, have poor self-esteem, destroy their image, etc.
Etc. As parents, we have to take care of our children! That means
saying no, that means being strict, someday they will thank
If your son likes wearing girl clothes, then buy him the
scratchiest wool panties you can find! We certainly don't want him
popping up on websites later on in life talking about how good the
silk feels on his genitals!! Yuck!!! And you know, there's nothing
wrong with gay people, but let them decide when they're ready to
decide. If your ten year old daughter says she wants to be a
stripper when she grows up, you're not going to buy her that kind
of outfits and send her to school are you? Think about it! The boy
wants girl clothes, you get him some. He goes to school, he gets
made fun of, people laughing and pointing, and then he is going to
feel bad. No one is going to forget, I still don't like the girl
who was in my first grade class that picked her nose and ate it.
You let him do that, and that image is going to follow him wherever
he goes. Maybe he will decide he doesn't like it someday, and maybe
he'll meet a nice girl.....then she'll hear rumors how he spent two
years dressed as a girl and think he's a weirdo.
If he's 18-20, whatever, and he still wants to wear them, then
he can go ahead and do it, if he doesn't want to, then he still has
his image. If he is really persistent, then maybe he can do it in
his room. Stick by him, but explain to him the consequences of his
choices, and by the way, he isn't old enough to make these kind of
choices- I don't care if he's 17 and a half!
I agree with the response above. Some of these friendus are just
completely fanciful - they smack of wish fulfillment by
cross-dressers. I'm English and know Americans are very liberal but
can't believe many US moms dress their boys in girl's clothes.
Someone said earlier in the thread that "cross-dressing" could be
understood up to the age of five or so when children are still
getting to grips with gender & identity but is it really
appropriate for a parent to encourage their child to dress in girls
clothes when they are 7,8, 9, 10? Or ignore their urges to dress in
girls clothes & let them raid their sister's wardrobes/drawers?
Of course it isn't! As many cross-dressers here have testified life
as a transvestite can be very awkward. Sure it's a choice but it's
a choice that should be made in adulthood not as a child. If a boy
wishes to dress as a girl a parent should explain that it is not
appropriate. He shouldn't be punished but told that it is something
he shouldn't do. Unfortunately, I know some parents are incapable
of saying "no". I work in a school and every year we have something
called "children in need" where children pay money to charity and
come dressed in whatever clothes they want rather than school
uniform - there's always a couple of boys who come dressed as
girls. Last year one of the boys came as a Princess in a long,
flowing pink dress, make-up and varnished nails - he's 8 years old
and too old for such play acting and wonder what his mother's lack
of authority will do to him later in life.
I think that you should let your child do as he wishes. I know
that when you were a child there was something you wanted or wanted
to do more than anything in the world and your parents told you no
and you never saw or had the thought of it again. Do you remember
how this felt? If you tell your son no then that's how he will feel
and he will feel embarrassed for a long while. I know I will if my
mom catches me in girl's clothes and tells me I can't anymore! This
all came from a teenage male himself.
There are some very good arguments for letting it be, with the
caveat that it be in private until the child is old enough to
understand the ramifications of publicly defying gender roles.
First, there is nothing at all "wrong" with a boy wearing girls'
clothing, just as there is nothing wrong with a girl wearing boys'
clothing. Second, this may even bring you and your son closer. When
my son was 13, I suspected that he was wearing my clothing because
things would not be where I left them. I arranged that he would
think that he was home alone, and after a couple of hours, walked
into my bedroom to find that he was not only wearing one of my
teddies, but my lipstick as well. He immediately began crying,
swearing that he was sorry and that this would never happen again.
He was rather surprised when I sat down with him and told him that
I was not in any way displeased with him. I put my arm around him
and let him lean against me as we talked about why he liked the
lingerie and makeup. I explained that if this is what he liked,
then this is what he should do, as long as he understood that going
public with it could be troublesome. He expressed a desire to live
as a girl, and we agreed to discuss it further. To show him that I
loved him, I kissed him. Kisses turned to caresses, and we ended up
making love. I now have a daughter and a lover, and both of us
couldn't be happier.
If you catch your son wearing girl's clothing, let him cry into
your arms. Or you could accept that that is who he is and he can't
help it and also talk about it with him but don't force him to do
it, if he says "don't worry" or "leave it" etc. don't worry about
it just let it go.
Honestly, if it is your son's decision and its his body you
really shouldn't try to change him. Also just let him know and try
to make him understand you're point of view and how you feel about
I am a 14 year old boy and I wear nothing but girls panties
except on mornings i have gym and then i wear boxers and change
back into panties after everyone has left the locker room.